guys here: get female friends, but not a girlfriend

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08 May 2013, 8:07 pm

Right now I would say I have more than ten female friends.
I usually hang .out with them once a week to every 1 to 2 months.
Depending who it is.

are there any other guys here, that can also make female friends easy
but can't get a girlfriend.

and their all nt too, and they range from 20 to 40 years old.

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08 May 2013, 8:19 pm

Guy here posts 300 versions of the same thread in 2 months.

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08 May 2013, 9:54 pm

I got zero female friends I hang out with zero times a week.

Actually, I do have some older women who I talk to a bit and would consider acquaintances but not enough to really call them friends. Younger women, lolno.

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08 May 2013, 10:24 pm

Tyri0n wrote:

Guy here posts 300 versions of the same thread in 2 months.

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09 May 2013, 12:49 am

1000Knives wrote:

This.

@Tyri0n - And that.

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09 May 2013, 1:22 am

Dude, yes. I'm always 'the friend' and I'm pretty sure, it's because my social ineptness has led me to people please nonstop. Essentially, I tell them what they want to hear which leads to pretty quick friendships, but absolutely no romantic interest. I really think some women (and probably men) need at least some sort of combative personality traits to see you as a potential partner because being ultra pacifistic and super agreeable has gotten me nowhere. The only girl I dated (for five years), literally made all of the moves that led to our relationship.

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09 May 2013, 1:27 am

I get no friends , luckily I get all my social needs out of work.

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09 May 2013, 1:54 am

Getting a gf is harder than getting a female friend.

But if you are getting female friends easily then basically you are on the right path.

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09 May 2013, 2:22 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Getting a gf is harder than getting a female friend.

Not necessarily, if you have ok surface presentation but little to offer, like many aspies do.

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09 May 2013, 2:28 am

Tyri0n wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Getting a gf is harder than getting a female friend.

Not necessarily, if you have ok surface presentation but little to offer, like many aspies do.

lol.

Don't make me laugh.

Well, you already did.

I said girlfriend, not a one night stand or fling.

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09 May 2013, 3:55 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Tyri0n wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Getting a gf is harder than getting a female friend.

Not necessarily, if you have ok surface presentation but little to offer, like many aspies do.

lol.

Don't make me laugh.

Well, you already did.

I said girlfriend, not a one night stand or fling.

It can take a few months to find out that someone has nothing to offer. That would, in some cases, place someone in "girlfriend" range.

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09 May 2013, 4:37 am

Tyri0n wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Tyri0n wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Getting a gf is harder than getting a female friend.

Not necessarily, if you have ok surface presentation but little to offer, like many aspies do.

lol.

Don't make me laugh.

Well, you already did.

I said girlfriend, not a one night stand or fling.

It can take a few months to find out that someone has nothing to offer. That would, in some cases, place someone in "girlfriend" range.

What do you mean with ´nothing to offer´?

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09 May 2013, 4:38 am

Tyri0n wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Tyri0n wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Getting a gf is harder than getting a female friend.

Not necessarily, if you have ok surface presentation but little to offer, like many aspies do.

lol.

Don't make me laugh.

Well, you already did.

I said girlfriend, not a one night stand or fling.

It can take a few months to find out that someone has nothing to offer. That would, in some cases, place someone in "girlfriend" range.

I imagine the OP wants a long term gf.

Relationships with Gfs are supposed to be long terms.

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09 May 2013, 5:29 am

That’s interesting. Girlfriend and one-night stand have always seemed just about equally impossible to me, and friend, whether male or female, only very slightly less impossible.

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09 May 2013, 8:20 am

[quote="The_Face_of_Boo"

I imagine the OP wants a long term gf.

Relationships with Gfs are supposed to be long terms.[/quote]

yes, that would be nice. But I don't mind having female friends,
and for One night stands that impossible for me, I don't go to bars or parties,
don't make enough money for an escort, and it's risky.

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09 May 2013, 8:37 am

I have lots of female friends, some are just acquaintances that I don't see very often. So will this set me on the right path? Time will tell I suppose.

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