I sometimes hate people's attitudes to Asperger's/Autism

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It really annoys me at times by some other people's narrow-minded attitudes to towards people with autism or asperger's syndrome, like for example I heard of a guy who was working as a temporary manager in this charity shop volunteered by people with autism and other conditions and that he called them 'mongs'. I hate it when they get called 'stupid' or 'weirdos'. I even seem to think that we and other people think we look ugly and take it too seriously and over-react when for example a girl you're friends with and you like is going out with someone else and that we are always losers and I can't understand why some people won't give us a chance to understand just because they are a bit different. I feel we have a lot more to offer and be more interesting for people and non-autistic people don't always seem that interested in us and don't always want to be around us and prefer more to meet people who are non-autistic like themselves. I felt like that was always the case at school and college. And I don't know why some non-autistic people didn't always approach me. Was it because I was awkward ? I was weird ? I behave like an non autistic person but I don't always get people my age (29 or younger) who seem interested in me and want to approach me.

Only sometimes? But yeah, I agree.

Some people are ignorant, like the one who uses rude name-calling. Some grow out of it. Others stay the same. They're missing out.

I also hate those attitudes as well. Those attitudes are probably the reason that most employees don't want to hire us.

Yeah that point about the uncanny valley is dead on. I think I've gotten there honestly. Like I generally mimic NT behavior, but a few small things always show. And yeah there's a reason why I hide it; I really don't want to judged for it.

well there is my childhood...getting called weird, ret*d, ect having people decide because one time I messed up an interaction that I was a total loser. Like most people never made any effort to understand me, while I spent a lot of time trying to understand them. I certainly gave up at some times and may have inadvertently pushed people away as well because I was used to feeling pushed away by everyone else. My worst regret is not making more of an effort to befriend one girl who did seem to like me and want to be friends...but well, she got killed by a random guy with a gun who came in the school before I could do that. So...yeah there was that incident on top of the aspergers and anxiety and depression issues I have had since before that.

I mean I wish everyone could understand all I have felt and went through, but they can't and I have come to accept that.

When I look back at my childhood the thing that sticks out the most is how bad adults treated me.

Yes, those attitudes and the names people are called, are ugly.

An upside to lacking a lot of social instincts is not being obsessed with social status, I think. It seems to me a lot of people are thinking about it (probably unconsciously) in literally every social interaction. They seemingly can't help looking for any and every reason to think themselves superior. I think it's the driver of everything from politics to witch burnings.

It's typical human behavior. Most people, who don't understand something, will attempt to distance themselves from it. With people, it tends to result in belittling, insulting or dismissing things as a way to differentiate from themselves, perhaps as a defensive mechanism. It does result in what seems to be hate or meanness but often isn't done with that intent.

Many people do have some insecurities, and this sort of thing is a result. We want to be seen as "superior" to others, so we'll tend to put people down as a way to elevate ourselves above them. Those usually come out as pointing out the perceived negatives of someone else while extolling our own positives.

Now, this shouldn't mean you have to take it "They're just insecure, so they don't know what they're doing". No. Take the opportunity to tell them that they're behavior is not acceptable and give them an opportunity to learn. Of course, it does feel good to tell them to go #$*@ themselves, so that can still be an option.

This temporary manager person you spoke of, chris1989, sounds like a horrendous person indeed. Alas, I'm afraid the world's attitudes towards Autistics remains quite negative and many people especially on the Internet seem to use the word "Autistic" used by itself as a mean-spirited name to call someone if they don't behave properly.

I have heard many Twitch users, the popular streaming site, say to other players "don't be so Autistic", when they play whatever game the way they're not supposed to. It's an insanely offensive way to treat people like us.

Let's see now, the names that I have personally been called are:

Autistic
Rain Man
Diaper boy
ret*d
Moron

Suffice it to say my anxiety status has never improved because with my improved Aspie memory, which seems at times more of a curse than a gift, I can remember every single time I was called those names.

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Yeah I really hate it when people use those words in those contexts. That's a smaller reason why I avoid the communities for a lot of multiplayer focused games.