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06 Sep 2020, 9:41 am

when i was 24 i was getting more opportunities to have sex compared to now aged nearly 31?

does your love life tend to get worse as you get to your late 20s/early 30s?


I think biologically the peak of attractiveness is between ages 14-25.



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06 Sep 2020, 9:48 am

Bullcrap.

I’m probably more attractive in all ways at almost 60 than when I was 24 with a neckbeard.



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06 Sep 2020, 9:50 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Bullcrap.

I’m probably more attractive in all ways at almost 60 than when I was 24 with a neckbeard.



Well I just read up that your face looks it’s most attractive between ages 14-25. Not saying it’s true that’s just what I researched.



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06 Sep 2020, 10:02 am

I’ve done my own research. It’s called living life. And I’ve concluded that men often are seen as quite attractive when they have a little grey in their hair.



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06 Sep 2020, 10:07 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
I’ve done my own research. It’s called living life. And I’ve concluded that men often are seen as quite attractive when they have a little grey in their hair.



yeah its called the silver fox look



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06 Sep 2020, 10:55 am

Jamesy wrote:
when i was 24 i was getting more opportunities to have sex compared to now aged nearly 31?
does your love life tend to get worse as you get to your late 20s/early 30s?

I think biologically the peak of attractiveness is between ages 14-25.
I couldn't disagree more with you. My young years were horrible. I had many "opportunities", in a sense that most women around me were single, but none of them liked me. I was too ugly for them. My love life and ability to attract women improved by leaps and bounds once I hit my late 20's. Reason being I aged into my looks. I actually started to pass for an attractive man, after living my entire post-puberty life as an ugly piece of garbage. Now, my body was mostly fine, although a little bit chunky; it was my face that was ugly.

If anything, my biological peak of ugliness was between ages 14 to 25. After that, my looks started to improve. I guess my slightly-older face is better than my totally-young face was. It just took me until age 28 to realize that I actually look better, and not be surprised by a woman showing interest in me.



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06 Sep 2020, 11:22 am

Aspie1 wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
when i was 24 i was getting more opportunities to have sex compared to now aged nearly 31?
does your love life tend to get worse as you get to your late 20s/early 30s?

I think biologically the peak of attractiveness is between ages 14-25.
I couldn't disagree more with you. My young years were horrible. I had many "opportunities", in a sense that most women around me were single, but none of them liked me. I was too ugly for them. My love life and ability to attract women improved by leaps and bounds once I hit my late 20's. Reason being I aged into my looks. I actually started to pass for an attractive man, after living my entire post-puberty life as an ugly piece of garbage. Now, my body was mostly fine, although a little bit chunky; it was my face that was ugly.

If anything, my biological peak of ugliness was between ages 14 to 25. After that, my looks started to improve. I guess my slightly-older face is better than my totally-young face was. It just took me until age 28 to realize that I actually look better, and not be surprised by a woman showing interest in me.




guess i must be getting uglier with age then because i am getting fewer chances these days

after age 24 i took up boxing maybe that might explain why i have gone downhill?



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06 Sep 2020, 12:09 pm

Jamesy wrote:
guess i must be getting uglier with age then because i am getting fewer chances these days

after age 24 i took up boxing maybe that might explain why i have gone downhill?
You're getting fewer chances because fewer single women your age around you. The determining factor isn't the number of chances, but how the women you interact with react to you. And "little things" are just as important as sex.

For example, let's say you're at a party, and a good dance song comes on. So you decide to grab a girl you've been talking to by the hand and pull her into a dance. How does she react? Does she smile and dance with you, or does she have an "ew! get away!" look on her face? Or let's say your good-looking friend met two girls somewhere, and invited you along to go to a club together. Pay attention to the facial expression of the girl dancing with you vs. the girl dancing with your friend. One time I accepted that invite, and we all danced, my friend's girl was on cloud nine, while mine looked like she was getting a flu shot. I never went clubbing with him again.

Back to you now. If the women you interact with today react well to you, then you're in the clear. The raw number of women you can potentially approach doesn't matter as much as the percentage of women you interact with reacting well.



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07 Sep 2020, 5:57 pm

Jamesy wrote:
when i was 24 i was getting more opportunities to have sex compared to now aged nearly 31?

does your love life tend to get worse as you get to your late 20s/early 30s?


I think biologically the peak of attractiveness is between ages 14-25.


Once you get to a cetain age many of the girls settle down. I personally waited almost too late and ended up marrying a girl almost 10 years younger then me she has AS but to be honest a girl with AS is better then a girl is 100 time better then a NT girl who has loyalty issues so I dont regret marrying her at all just had to learn to deal with her difference which is a lot better then raising someone else's kids like many guys do.


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08 Sep 2020, 7:14 pm

Jamesy wrote:
Aspie1 wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
when i was 24 i was getting more opportunities to have sex compared to now aged nearly 31?
does your love life tend to get worse as you get to your late 20s/early 30s?

I think biologically the peak of attractiveness is between ages 14-25.
I couldn't disagree more with you. My young years were horrible. I had many "opportunities", in a sense that most women around me were single, but none of them liked me. I was too ugly for them. My love life and ability to attract women improved by leaps and bounds once I hit my late 20's. Reason being I aged into my looks. I actually started to pass for an attractive man, after living my entire post-puberty life as an ugly piece of garbage. Now, my body was mostly fine, although a little bit chunky; it was my face that was ugly.

If anything, my biological peak of ugliness was between ages 14 to 25. After that, my looks started to improve. I guess my slightly-older face is better than my totally-young face was. It just took me until age 28 to realize that I actually look better, and not be surprised by a woman showing interest in me.




guess i must be getting uglier with age then because i am getting fewer chances these days

after age 24 i took up boxing maybe that might explain why i have gone downhill?


It might have absolutely nothing to do with you at all. If you start talking marriage, you might have better luck being that you are past 30 now. Are you in a position to marry? Also, when you were younger, were the women as young as you? If they were, maybe they were okay with just a romp because they were still young and had their whole life ahead of them. Your current peers (30 and older) want to get married. The younger women see you as old especially if you are lumped up from boxing - like an old lion - full of battle scars. Sexually, young women see men going downhill at 30 and may suspect that you are already married and just out for a sexual diversion. Jamesy, you're better off getting married - look for a bride - a decent, loving woman. Women who hit 30 and aren't married start to feel panicky thinking that they will be alone forever. They may not be as opportunistic as the younger ones and much more understanding. It might be time to hang up your gigolo suit. Brehus made a strong point too about fidelity.



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08 Sep 2020, 7:41 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Bullcrap.

I’m probably more attractive in all ways at almost 60 than when I was 24 with a neckbeard.


You had a neckbeard!! Post a photo. Please.



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08 Sep 2020, 7:50 pm

RightGalaxy wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Bullcrap.

I’m probably more attractive in all ways at almost 60 than when I was 24 with a neckbeard.


You had a neckbeard!! Post a photo. Please.


Seconding :mrgreen:


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08 Sep 2020, 7:54 pm

Late 20s/early 30s have been fruitful for me in terms of “choices” in dating, which is pretty similar to what it was like in my early 20s. I’m a lot pickier though now.


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09 Sep 2020, 5:04 am

RightGalaxy wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Aspie1 wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
when i was 24 i was getting more opportunities to have sex compared to now aged nearly 31?
does your love life tend to get worse as you get to your late 20s/early 30s?

I think biologically the peak of attractiveness is between ages 14-25.
I couldn't disagree more with you. My young years were horrible. I had many "opportunities", in a sense that most women around me were single, but none of them liked me. I was too ugly for them. My love life and ability to attract women improved by leaps and bounds once I hit my late 20's. Reason being I aged into my looks. I actually started to pass for an attractive man, after living my entire post-puberty life as an ugly piece of garbage. Now, my body was mostly fine, although a little bit chunky; it was my face that was ugly.

If anything, my biological peak of ugliness was between ages 14 to 25. After that, my looks started to improve. I guess my slightly-older face is better than my totally-young face was. It just took me until age 28 to realize that I actually look better, and not be surprised by a woman showing interest in me.




guess i must be getting uglier with age then because i am getting fewer chances these days

after age 24 i took up boxing maybe that might explain why i have gone downhill?


It might have absolutely nothing to do with you at all. If you start talking marriage, you might have better luck being that you are past 30 now. Are you in a position to marry? Also, when you were younger, were the women as young as you? If they were, maybe they were okay with just a romp because they were still young and had their whole life ahead of them. Your current peers (30 and older) want to get married. The younger women see you as old especially if you are lumped up from boxing - like an old lion - full of battle scars. Sexually, young women see men going downhill at 30 and may suspect that you are already married and just out for a sexual diversion. Jamesy, you're better off getting married - look for a bride - a decent, loving woman. Women who hit 30 and aren't married start to feel panicky thinking that they will be alone forever. They may not be as opportunistic as the younger ones and much more understanding. It might be time to hang up your gigolo suit. Brehus made a strong point too about fidelity.





what do you mean lumped up from boxing?



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09 Sep 2020, 5:15 am

that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
RightGalaxy wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Bullcrap.

I’m probably more attractive in all ways at almost 60 than when I was 24 with a neckbeard.


You had a neckbeard!! Post a photo. Please.


Seconding :mrgreen:


We want photo!
We want photo!



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09 Sep 2020, 8:22 am

can my lack of a sex life only get worse the older i become?