Danusaurus wrote:
My family tell me that I'm a f-wit and ret*d and ... and they send people to call me names even at 3am in public places. ... To make it worse they told everybody they possibly could my secrets and they felt it was their entitlement to go and tell everyone that I have ASD without even asking me first or how I'd feel about it. Let me know your thoughts.
That's abuse, abuse is injustice and injustice is known to generate feelings of, desire for, vengeance, revenge.
I've had that.
Sometimes handled it constructively.
Sometimes handled it destructively.
(wouldn't recommend going that type of route)And upon reviewing definitions of cynical and cynicism, yep, been there felt that, might still do.
Quote:
Cynicism is an attitude characterized by a general distrust of others' motives.[1] A cynic may have a general lack of faith or hope in the human species or people ... Modern cynicism has been defined as an attitude of distrust toward claimed ethical and social values and a rejection of the need to be socially involved.[3] It is pessimistic about the capacity of human beings to make correct ethical choices, and one antonym is naiveté.[4] Modern cynicism is sometimes regarded as a product of mass society, especially in those circumstances where the individual believes there is a conflict between society's stated motives and goals and actual motives and goals.[5][6]
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cynicism_(contemporary)
Tonight I don't have a "Do this to fix that" thing to offer.
What exactly to do depends on so many different variables specific to the situation and to the specific individuals involved.
I wonder what would happen if when your family does call you those things, you ask them,
"Okay, I get that you are saying that to me because it meets a need you have, what unmet need in you does it meet?"
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