People who ask you "and?" when you are talking...

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04 Jul 2022, 3:35 am

Interesting. One of the biggest conversational problems I've encountered is someone taking umbrage at my disagreeing on some point and taking it personally instead of asking "why?" Disappointing+. I have a good reason for everything I say and do but am always open to correction. It's called learning :wink:



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04 Jul 2022, 5:35 am

Doesn't really bother me. I do it myself sometimes.


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04 Jul 2022, 7:57 am

"and" in a conversation means enough with the details, get to the point. My love of detail and 'side- explanations" often gets in the way of discussion and interchange of ideas, I have experienced this frequently, especially from those close to me. I don't think it is meant in a hostile way, they just want less information along the way to the point I am making, or trying to make.


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04 Jul 2022, 10:44 am

Okay so...the point being made by folks who do this 'and' thing is "get to the POINT!... dont be so longwinded."?



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04 Jul 2022, 2:14 pm

for me, in my experience that is how I interpret it. I give too much information most of the time, I have had to learn how to edit my thoughts, shared insights, info, etc to make it as short and to the point as possible.


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05 Jul 2022, 3:22 pm

It’s also something a supposedly “hip” person says to somebody perceived as not so “hip.”