"thin line between love and hate"

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(Since I was about 12 years old, it has appeared to me that) some people (disproportionately found in counseling, higher education, martial arts, and the upper middle classes) emphasize the "good". (Psychobabble) They (to me) appear more functional, financially successful, and healthier than people that emphasize the bad (Negative Nellies). Psychobabble people smile easier, and act more aware of the situation and other people's emotions.

However, in neuroscience, love and hate trigger the same parts of the brain.


Scientists prove it really is a thin line between love and hate
The same brain circuitry is involved in both extreme emotions – but hate retains a semblance of rationality

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/scie ... 76901.html

Please read the article and write about your reaction.

16 years ago, I got a "C" and a "B" in two lower division Neuroscience classes. While I do not have enough education to understand the article within context, it just seems so true. Love is not "good". Hate is not "bad". Love and hate both lead to behavior later regretted.

Sometimes, something or someone could appear "good" and then turn out "bad". Nobody is perfect. The same thing could be "good" in one situation and "bad" in a different situation.

Sometimes, I feel like things and people are not worth the energy it takes to deal with them. (cost benefit analysis).
"Pick your battles" is good advice, but some people pick all the battles.

You can't measure quality. Something could be good for one person and bad for a different person. Every situation is different.

Somehow, *apathy or resignation * sounds like a good alternative.

Some people keep trying to extract the maximum amount of humor out of every situation. (Pseudobulbar affect). They look well adjusted, functional, and successful. However, I think that they are not as functional as they think they are, because they act like negative feelings are so taboo, that they have to constantly put so much effort toward feeling happy all the time.

However, happy is just an emotion. Happy is not magical or special.

Sadness, anger, and fear are just emotions. Anger is not a felony.

Even clinical psychologists sometimes act like the correct answer to "how are you doing?" is "perfect". All other answers are wrong, and the punishment for a wrong answer: 5150.

For example, a counselor asked "how are you?" and I answered "depressed". (My medical record says "clinical depression" officially diagnosed.) And the counselor had the nerve to answer "Do you feel like hurting someone?".

There are only five emotions: happy, sad, angry, surprised, fear. Only one out of five emotions is positive.

Then some people act like they have a moral "right" to be "happy" at all times and whenever they are not happy, it proves that someone violated their "rights". But nobody has a "right" to be happy.

Then some people act all "buddy-buddy", but then the second they are not "happy", it's like Dr Jekyll and Mister Hyde. For that reason (among numerous other reasons, I feel reluctant to confide in anyone, much less attempt social interactions, relationships, or friendships).

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