My life is slipping by

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I get depressed time to time, because my life is not going well.

I'll be 27, couldn't put my life in order yet. I'm wasting my days unintentionally and feeling lost. Im intelligent but have adhd so I cant do anything that requires focus and mental effort. Also im bad at time management. So, time slips by and I don't even notice.

As a result, now Im 26 and didnt make a progress financially or socially.

I want to be successful, but i'm not surrounded with like minded people. Actually i'm not surrounded by any one and i'm very lonely.

I want to move to another country and start over, I hate this place.

Put yourself in my shoes, what would you do?

This is not a whining topic, I'm just looking for some solution.

I hope you can ask your pdoc for a trial of Strattera. it worked magic for me.

Yeah I'd like to try that too.

I hope you can get the help you need HA.

I'm also highly intelligent and have some pretty serious ADHD. I'm now 39, but in my mid twenties I was in a pretty similar situation, it sounds like. I took out some loans and signed up for another bachelor's degree in a field with job prospects. For my first degree I went to a state school next to my home town and studied music, then became a guitar teacher, which allowed me to live in my mother's garage and endure her daily shaming about how I needed to get financially independent. I was only a mediocre guitarist, despite my best efforts.

But my point is, I learned that I can get things done and pay attention to details as well as anyone else if I try. I just have to have systems to keep myself motivated and enough things to keep me interested to soothe me and help me calm down. Special interests have been my saving grace in life. My life is far from perfect. I struggle to maintain close relationships because I'm so idiosyncratic. But I'm living independently and doing a job I enjoy, and gradually learning to act like a real adult in my community. So I have complete faith that you can be successful too if you put in a lot of effort over time, if you want to.

But I also think success is highly relative to what is important to you personally and what makes you happy.

I knows someone who celebrated his 25th wedding anniversary after having a really weird failed first marriage.
2nd time worked out much better for him even though he was in his 30s. Everyone is his family is really short.

I try to live by what seems to a universal rule of if you take something from life, it will take it back in some form, in events like:
-- a good feeling or good omen after a long period of depression,
-- feeling fortunate to be alive after a traumatic event,
-- retreating to your quiet space from a day out to a restaurant/club/party being exposed to loud sounds
-- sticking it out in a stressful situation, be recognised for your hard work (may not always work out this way or have different outcomes)

and vice versa

obv not an exhaustive list but gives general idea of how my life has gone

I'm 42, and I'm still trapped in that exact situation.