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chris1989
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09 Jan 2025, 11:51 am

I seem to think that had there not been things like clubs, bars, parties when you're young, man-made deadlines or expectations to have to start by a certain stage in life having relationships, sex, marriage and kids etc I seem to feel I wouldn't be having these comparison thoughts or missing out as though I "should" be doing these things because it's "expected" of us otherwise we are "losers" or feeling regrets for not doing it when I didn't want to do certain things.

I seem to think that if I turned into an extroverted, party-going person and ended up getting with someone that it rid me of the negative comparing thoughts, start feeling more content and be free of any regrets.



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09 Jan 2025, 8:37 pm

Your main problem doesn't seem to be peer pressure so much as internalized expectations. The difference being peer pressure is external, whereas what you engage in is internal.


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