How are you supposed to respond after someone praises you?

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I never figured that one out, but whatever I ended up doing, I always got the feeling that I had done the wrong thing, just because of the uncomfortable manner in which people reacted after they observed my response to their praising. Not knowing what to say or do after I am praised is one of the reasons, but certainly not the only reason, why I dislike being praised.

When someone praises you,

Are you supposed to act humble?
Are you supposed to remain impassive?
Are you supposed to downplay your accomplishment?
Are you supposed to toot your own horn?
Are you supposed to praise the other person?
Are you supposed to thank the other person?

or

Are you supposed to do or say something else?

dont have a clue at all never knew how to respond to that to

I say "Thank you."



If that isn't good enough for them, they probably didn't mean the praise that much anyway.
*shrug*

I hate when someone goes on and on about me (praise wise or other wise) I just sort of shrug and mumble thanks.




I'd say though that telling them "thanks" or something similar should be enough though. Don't go on and on about yourself and I see no reason to praise the other person. Acknowledging their praise should be enough.

A simple smile and "Thank You" is all that is needed.

A simple smile is ALWAYS a good choice

oh yes, that's always been an issue for me.

when it is someone i am informal with, i just say, 'i know', as a form of joke.

like yesterday my mom called me, we've talked about my life and she told me that was proud of me, i replied, 'yeah, i am proud of myself too'.

when it is someone i am formal with, i usually say, 'thank you, it is nice of you to say'. and when it is someone like a colleague on my level, i thank and try to praise them too.

but i feel good only when i can joke about it. i often use jokes to cover my inabilities to understand these NT things.

Yeah, I think you only have to say "thank you". I try to say it more often now, but sometimes my GF has to remind me

I think my worst problem is when people say "It was nice meeting you." I don't think they'd appreciate it much if I was honest and said "Oh, I was rather impartial to it, and we'll likely never bump into each other again...even if we did, it would be rather awkward." I guess you're supposed to say "You too." or something

You say thank you. And if you want, say 'my favourite bit of it was this' or asking which bit they liked, if its an art piece.

Saying they're wrong is just rejecting it, and is not taken well. Agreeing with them will make you out as an a***hole. Just accept it with good grace.

I say "thank you" and do that wretched grimace that passes for my smile. If they are effusive I say "oh, ssstttoooop!; pleeease." like I don't mean it AT ALL! that bit of obvious insincerity lightens the mood and usually gets them at least smiling if not laughing out right.

I find the laughter it provokes lightens the mood, and pays back all that energy they just expended on me. works for me.

your mileage may vary,

Merle

That's why praise is so difficult for me. I do not seek it. I feel uncomfortable when people do it. Miss Manners says the polite thing to do when someone praises you is to acknowledge the compliment, say thank you or something positive. Miss Manners says NOT to reject the compliment because it's impolite.

yes it's rude to refuse to accept a compliment so just say thank you and then shut up or move on conversationally. It's actually the quickest way out of it if you find compliments awkward.

I say, "Thank you," and then try to change the topic, because it's very awkward for me.

I usually smile and say "thank you". If I know the person well, I sometimes joke by saying: "what can I do, it's a gift".

I say thank you, but it does make me uncomfortable when people praise me. I don't really know how to react other than just thanking them.