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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Can an aspie be social for his career? |
| eyelesbarrow |
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Posted: 30 Jun 2009, 10:41 am
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Replies: 16
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In my case, the key was knowing the 'social rules' and practice, practice, practice.
I suppose others might have coping mechanisms to get around the social aspects of one's job.  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone else have a sorta neuro-eccentric social group? |
| eyelesbarrow |
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Posted: 27 Jun 2009, 11:55 am
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Replies: 35
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| Me! My closest friends have a histories of depression, panic attacks, self-mutilation, and violence. It was bad when we were teenagers. My best friend used to cut herself, beat her girlfriend, take prozac. Then another had a major panic attack - he thought we were all against him. But that wa years ... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Dystopian novels |
| eyelesbarrow |
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Posted: 23 Jun 2009, 8:54 pm
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Replies: 33
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| oy, i'm reading this ^ right now. |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Dystopian novels |
| eyelesbarrow |
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Posted: 21 Jun 2009, 9:10 am
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Replies: 33
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| I agree on Children of Men and Lathe of Heaven. JG Ballard's novels are also dystopic. I esp. like Super-Cannes. I recommend Fredric Jameson's Archaeologies of the Future: The Desire Called Utopia and Other Science Fictions. It is not a novel, but a treatise on science fiction and utopia/dystopia. I... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Going to a concert |
| eyelesbarrow |
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Posted: 21 Jun 2009, 9:01 am
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Replies: 8
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| I go to gigs by myself but its very rare. I only go to a concert if I really really love the band, but otherwise I stay at home. Being alone in a bar/ concert is very painful and awkward for me, I still don't know how to get around to it. I think of it as a sacrifice :) For a lot of people, it is an... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Pedantry: WHY is it a turn-off to women? |
| eyelesbarrow |
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Posted: 21 Jun 2009, 8:46 am
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Replies: 66
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| I actually like pedantry, being someone who's often guilty of it. (but I try not to do it to strangers or acquaintances anymore.) Last week, I talked to a guy friend about political parties in Europe and how they were formed. Good thing it was all in YM so I can post links and stuff. When we said go... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: 31 and just self diagnosed, but some bits don't fit...? |
| eyelesbarrow |
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Posted: 21 Jun 2009, 8:38 am
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| Hi Will and welcome. Last year, the doctor told me that I have NVLD but stopped short of giving me a full-blown AS diagnosis. She said I have features of AS but since I'm functioning well, it's not AS. I guess the secret to my 'functioning well' is that I work in an industry where I'm very comfortab... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why isn't NLD on the spectrum? |
| eyelesbarrow |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2009, 10:34 am
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Replies: 18
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| i was diagnosed last year with nvld and the psychiatrist said i exhibit features of AS, but not the whole shebang. i can be really awkward in social situations but thank goodness, my present work does not entail a lot of socializing. (i am around people a lot and talk to them, but on my own terms an... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Do you look like a teenager? |
| eyelesbarrow |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2009, 10:19 am
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Replies: 261
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| i'm 26 but i look like 18. depending on clothes, i can look much younger. it's always funny to see people's expression when i tell them my age. last april, i was at the german embassy to get my visa and the guy ruffled through my papers and looked at me several times. and then finally he asked me th... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Not finding intelligent friends. |
| eyelesbarrow |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2009, 10:04 am
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Replies: 30
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| ^^i do feel that i have a different language when i talk to people who are not my friends, say colleagues from work. it's not bec i feel intelligent but because i fear that people would make fun of me if i blurt out stuff that i usually say to people close to me. my friends and i grew up together in... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Bletchley Park |
| eyelesbarrow |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2009, 9:51 am
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Replies: 15
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| i too would love to go there. unfortunately i'm on the other side of the world. *sigh* |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Extroverted Aspie?! |
| eyelesbarrow |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2009, 9:49 am
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Replies: 22
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| I can be quite talkative to people i know, but that is not always all the time. even when w/ my friends, i need some time to 'rest'. what i notice about me is that i can handle conversations w/ total strangers, but the topics can be quite limited, and after we exhaust that, the awkward lull comes. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do you disappear for days? |
| eyelesbarrow |
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Posted: 03 Mar 2009, 10:21 pm
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Replies: 45
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| Not physically, bec i have work commitments. however, i do have days, sometimes weeks, when i don't talk/contact my friends. they understand though, although i still feel guilty about it. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Big Crush Letdown |
| eyelesbarrow |
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Posted: 03 Mar 2009, 10:14 pm
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Replies: 16
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: ASC test |
| eyelesbarrow |
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Posted: 14 Feb 2009, 5:46 am
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Replies: 37
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| http://www.pttools.co.uk/asc/asc_wp_gif2.php?rbi=8&si=8.5&lg=3.5&poc=6.25&ir=2.75&rp=5&s=6&m=5 # Repetitive or restricted Behaviours and Interests (RBI) - Stereotyped, repetitive behaviours and interests # Social Impairment (SI) - Social understanding # Language problems... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Do you see no point in 1000+ songs on an Ipod? |
| eyelesbarrow |
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Posted: 11 Jan 2009, 9:24 am
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Replies: 46
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| i have 5000++ on a 80GB Ipod. I listen to music during the commute to work, at work, while waiting at the grocery line, in bed etc etc. In a week, I listen to at least 500 tracks, depending on my work load. I know for some people 5000++ songs is excessive, but I find it oddly comforting to know that... |
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