How should I help my brother in grade 10?

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My younger brother is in grade 10 and he is also on the spectrum. He had a difficult semester and this semester is also difficult.

I dont know how to help him, because Grade 10 was a really bad year for me too. I just feel really bad when he gets stressed by his schoolwork and the fact that hes considered weird by other people. He has meltdowns almost every schoolday after school. I try my best to help him. Hes very awesome and I wish he could realize it.

When he is upset, I try to get him to discuss his special interest with me. Then I talk about mine. It takes about an hour for him to calm down and feel happier. His smile is amazing.

I hate seeing him upset and crying. I dont know how highschool will be like for him when I leave. I dont think he will be happy. Im taking an extra year though, so I do get extra time with him. We usually walk to school together. My younger sister goes with her friends. Somedays he shows up a bit later. Mornings are stressful for him. They are stressful for me too.

Don’t take an extra year of high school because you want to be with your brother. I can understand why you want to do that.

You’re being a very good older brother, and he’s lucky to have you as a brother.

Im taking an extra semester to get more math skills. It just happens that I get to spend one more half year with him. Hes going to be so upset when I leave. He hates change. My family will deal with that when it happens though.

First of all, you seem like an amazing older brother. Second of all, I think maybe trying to talk to him about what changes he feels would improve his education and then advocate for that to be integrated to an IEP or something? I don't know if that'd work, just an idea.

Thats a good idea. He has an IEP right now. But another meeting might be a good idea. It is close to the end of the year. He has another room to work in and he gets extra time on projects. He is a procrastinator. I think that it is his executive functioning though. What I think he needs is extra social skills practice. He does some but he has extreme difficulty talking about stuff other people want to talk about. I get social skills practice too. He is a very moody person as well. He has a hard time controlling his emotions.