I sometimes feel like a hated person. Is that true ?

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I seem to feel as though people dislike me because that was why they didn't always speak to me at college, or on here and blocked me and feel as though I want to blame them for not befriending when I know that it is not their fault whatsoever. I don't know if its because they knew I was different and they found it socially difficult to communicate with me. I was told that sometimes I can come across as standoffish which only puts people off from speaking to me. It seems to make out as though I am a ''callous'' and ''bad'' person.

I used to find it frustrating on social media because I used to find myself wanting to be like everyone else getting lots of likes and comments and having a large number of friends online and all I got was a few likes and very few comments on any of the photos and stuff I used to upload. Now I don't care how many ''friends'' I've got and I have little interest in wanting to upload any interesting photos and stuff. I eventually began writing in the What's On Your Mind? box things that were negative and just rant and vent my frustrations which also didn't really get anyone speaking to me and they just end up blocking me or just ignoring me, even that upset me and I would end up taking someone blocking me personally as though someone had broken off their friendship with me face-to-face when I know its not the same thing online than it is in real life.

How do you know people here think you are "callous and bad", or that they blocked you?

How would anyone here know whether you sometimes feel like you are a hated person?

People don't respond to your threads because you post the same thing over and over and over, you do not engage in the thread when people do offer advice, and you are relentlessly negative.

That doesn't mean people hate you.

I think the world's getting weird, in the sense that people just aren't talking to or acknowledging each other anymore. It makes the search for valid social feedback really hard because people could ignore you entirely because they're just into themselves and whether or not you can raise their status, they might just ignore you because their attention span can't adhere to anything that's not super-shiny, you having said something political that they didn't like and so they ghost you (really stupid but it happens), and you'll probably never know which it is because no one will provide that info.

You can also look at the loneliness epidemic, the number of NT's even (male or female) who say they have zero close friends and no one they could rely on in an emergency. What's been strange to me having grown up largely before the internet really got big and seeing how things are getting now - it's almost been like watching the world go from a place where people had personalities to something closer to automatons - almost like they're checking out of being human in any non-required social sense.