How to make an autistic person hate you

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JakeASD
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25 Jun 2016, 2:57 pm

Upon learning the news of my diagnosis, my auntie said that she thinks she has a "bit of that". She made it sound like a virus that is going around!


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25 Jun 2016, 3:52 pm

JakeASD wrote:
Upon learning the news of my diagnosis, my auntie said that she thinks she has a "bit of that". She made it sound like a virus that is going around!



She might have meant symptoms and she doesn't have enough for it to impact her life.


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25 Jun 2016, 6:44 pm

Actual hate (as opposed to causing upset or anger):

Be able to save their pet and don't do it. Then just for 'good' measure, continue to try to force your fugly presence into their life as the utter POS you are.

When the aspie is a child, make a real threat that could steal the child from the only safe haven she has, her home, because of unrelated trouble in school, causing the girl to spend the next 20 years alternating between complete rage and having to run to the bathroom every time someone rang the doorbell.

That's two sets of lowlife I hate with every ounce of my being, will never forgive, and honestly wish everything bad imaginable.


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25 Jun 2016, 7:12 pm

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This a list of things many NT people do that are almost certain to make people on the spectrum hate them. :evil:

1 - Tell them "you don't look/sound/act autistic".
2 - Mention that you heard the latest mass murderer had Asperger's.
3 - Tell them "I heard Hitler was autistic, too."
4 - If the autistic person is non-verbal, talk as if they can't understand what you're saying and like they're not even in the room.
5 - Use " autism", "lack of", and "empathy" all in the same sentence.
6 - Wear ribbons or keep decorations shaped like a puzzle piece or a puzzle pattern or a blue lightbulb.
8 - Make lots of noise when eating, walking or moving around.
9 - Always sit or stand as closely to them as possible.
10 - Tell them to stop stimming, even if they are not causing any harm doing so.
12 - Tell them to make eye contact.
13 - Tell them to smile. Even NTs hate being told to smile when they absolutely do not want to.
14 - Two words: Autism Speaks!
15 - Have everything lit up in blue during April.
16 - Use "autistic" as another word for "stupid" or the "R" word.
17 - If they are visiting, have your TV or stereo on as loud as possible. If they ask you to please turn it off, react as if they asked you to give them one of your kidneys.
18 - Assume that anyone who acts rude, nasty, or gross must be autistic.
19 - Make fun of their special interests but talk endlessly about your own "normal" interests and expect them to listen just as much as they would like you to listen to theirs.
20 - Firmly believe that autism is a horrible national health crisis caused by vaccinations and that everyone should just stop getting shots, and stand by your belief even when the death toll from diseases that were once nearly non-existent start to rise. Also be sure to include fundamentalist religion and pseudoscience in your protests against vaccinations.
21 - Act as if only male children are autistic and that they somehow disappear from the face of the earth the second they turn 20.
22 - Believe with all your heart that people use autism as an excuse to be intentionally rude when most autistic people are not intentionally rude, often worry about when or where they will make the next big social faux pas, and are very embarrassed and will usually apologize when they do.
23 - Tell them "Oh I know someone named so-and-so and he/she has autism too. Do you know him/her?" because people on the spectrum *must* know someone else just because they are also on the spectrum. This is the equivalent of assuming someone of a different race, sexual orientation or disability must know all other people with the same similarity.
24 - Suggest (more like shove down their throat) they try all kinds of snake oil remedies that "cure" autism. Make sure these "cures" are as creepy and disgusting as possible and ignore the horror stories of people who tried them on their autistic children, and the kid got badly hurt or died.
25 - Tell them autism is made up and doesn't exist.


ouch, i can feel myself cringing already, number 9 is perticularly bad for me, a guy in my class figured this out, so started sitting closer, oh and touching me ocasionally just to see how i reacted. its kinda of obstructive, my dad thinks i hate him or something because i always shrug off his attempts to hug me or even put his hand on my shoulder, i think it gets way too far when you can't stand even your own parents getting that close. 23, actually my best friend has it too, i didn't know it at the time though (that i had it i mean) but i believe thats why my school put us together (we are very similar people as it turns out, my classmates used to get us both mixed up and call me by his name and him by my name). so guess i do know someone else haha. 22. ive never actually used it, hell nobody outside my family knows (well knows by me telling them or otherwise....if you know what i mean) some have bound to have figured it out though, like particularly women start babying you, like you don't even know the first thing about being social or talking to people ( which i kinda do, i may be "very blunt with no filter" but i sort of get how to conduct myself)


but yes all of these (except the april thing?) but ESPECIALLY number 9, do this an ill hate you forever, especially if you do it KNOWING that i hate it


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25 Jun 2016, 7:14 pm

I perticularly hate stereotyping, like for example i have ADD so a guy goes "i talk about video games with you mainly because i know its the only thing you'll actually pay attention to" its like EXCUSE ME, im perfectly capable of talking about anything except small talk, i dont do small talk at all, hell i dont even know how to do it.


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25 Jun 2016, 7:35 pm

Like Skilpadde, I hate animal abusers to a degree that is extreme. This includes the people who shoot creatures like leopards for "sport" and pose for photographs with their "trophies" the bodies and their guns with gloating smiles "aren't I the greatest" smiles, as Trump's sons did a couple of years ago - there are no words for the degree of hatred in my inner response to the callous murder of animals.



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25 Jun 2016, 8:07 pm

More things I thought of, more like things to do to make me hate you. :P

Continue carrying on a topic with me I am talking about and then telling me to stop talking about it or complaining about me keeping on talking about it, uh why did you even contribute to it in the first place? :?

Ask for my opinion and then beg for my honest opinion and then get mad at me, what sick game are you playing here? :evil:

Change plans on me the last minute

Get mad at me for my anxiety

Answering my questions and then getting mad at me for asking you "personal questions." Why did you answer them then if they were personal and then get mad at me about it? :?


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25 Jun 2016, 10:18 pm

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Treat them like children even if they are an adult.


I did the opposite - told my autistic daughter in her late 20s that she's an adult now and needs to stop squealing when she's frustrated - and she later told me she hated me so much, for saying that.

She stopped squealing though. She also recognized, on her own, that she can't just shout when she's frustrated or upset. I kicked her out of my house for shouting at me.

At a calmer moment, I asked how she likes it when there are loud angry voices, and I think she finally saw it from the other person's point of view, not just her own.


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25 Jun 2016, 11:35 pm

BeaArthur wrote:
mikeman7918 wrote:
Treat them like children even if they are an adult.


I did the opposite - told my autistic daughter in her late 20s that she's an adult now and needs to stop squealing when she's frustrated - and she later told me she hated me so much, for saying that.

She stopped squealing though. She also recognized, on her own, that she can't just shout when she's frustrated or upset. I kicked her out of my house for shouting at me.

At a calmer moment, I asked how she likes it when there are loud angry voices, and I think she finally saw it from the other person's point of view, not just her own.


Tough love when done right is important I think. My parents have gone above and beyond in how to raise an autistic child best they can. And part of that has been being tough on me when needed. Which I hate when it happens, but am starting to appreciate now.



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26 Jun 2016, 12:01 am

After knowing they're autistic for 17 years, demand that they put your image ahead of their own mental health and insist that they become the curator of your public image and social life. f**k you.


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26 Jun 2016, 12:23 am

"" Oh, i feel/think that way too sometimes, so i must have aspergers too!""

"" Just be yourself!"".""Dont try too hard""'

""Your too kind/nice.. Dont be!""'

""So.. What savant skills do you have?"" ( ps, never liked the word ""savant"". its literal translation i find rather demeaning!)

""Toughen up!""

""Deal with it!""

""It cant be that bad, you dont show it!""

"Smile!"

""You need to socialize more""

""So.. you have a social phobia and you did effects lighting to try to combat such phobia only for it to be made worse..Ok..How about we try social flooding!"" 8O . - said last psychologist!