Dealing with children/babies

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It's Life itself...when one feeds a newborn.

I wish we, as older persons, remember the feeling of being fed as a baby by a nurturing mother.

And I also wish babies would show their appreciation more for being fed and nurtured.

I hate babies They start crying if I'm anywhere near them.

I love babies and children. I find them easier to deal with than I do the elderly. Babies and children are also the future, so they will be raised in a more inclusive world that accepts all differences. As a result, they will grow up to be more accepting of all people.

Don't fake it. Don't be all goo goo gaga. Babies and children have enough people being like that. Just treat them like mini adults. With respect. My 4 year old could tell you tons about astronomy and anatomy, and would happily listen for ages on those or any science related topics. If you simply wanted to tell her what a cute dress she had or what a "big girl" she is now that she is starting school she might scowl at you. I don't find other people's children all that interesting and I find babies fairly boring but part of that is the expectation I bring to the table: that they have nothing to talk about. If you elevate the conversation with kids a lot of them are pretty happy and have stuff to say.

Kraftie. Both my girls remember me breastfeeding them. They even have different names for milk!

Dealing with children is actually more troublesome then dealing with people. Probably because they take more effort and are often a liability.

I love children and grandchildren when they are my own. I try to teach them important things. An infant will begin to understand language around 6 months to a year before they begin to speak. So that is when I begin. For each of my grandchildren, when I called my children, I would have them put each grandchild on the phone. When their ears were up against the phone I would say "Have you hugged and kissed your mommy and daddy today. That is your job. It is very important. Make sure you do that every day. Do not forget. Remember." And sure enough that is what they would do. They are very loving grandchildren.

When they grew older I would sometimes take them out into the backyard in the dark and howl at the moon. Sometimes kids do not realize how much fun it is to howl at the moon.

When they visit us, I would light off a bonfire and cook sausages and potatoes on the hot coals and then later when it was dark, roast marshmallow over the fire. These are some of the best times ever.

I struggled with my own children and I don't like being in charge of a group of kids for long (I taught preschool for a couple of years and it was HARD). However, like SplendidSnail, I find kids easier to deal with often. They don't have the social constructs and expectations adults do. And I speak to them as if they are little adults, so they tend to like me. If I am in a room where I am feeling socially awkward, I am likely to find a child to interact with. People just think I like kids and I am freed from the awkward small talk.

This is nothing to be ashamed of. Is this the close kind of friend who knows about asd and could handle discussing how you feel? My best friend and I have a "no BS" agreement. She'd want to know if I struggled with her children.

You do not control how you feel about babies, so you should not be made to feel ashamed of it.

I do not enjoy children or infants at all. They make me very irritated and anxious because they are noisy, hyperactive, sticky, nosy, and love to touch things they shouldn't. The sound of a baby screaming can send me into a meltdown faster than any other noise, including a train whistle.

Older children and preteens tend to be snotty, snarky and ungrateful as a group. They're moody, hurtful, and not much fun to be around. I thought that when I was one, and I still think that now.

My sister wants to have kids someday, and I'm dreading it. I've already told her I'm not babysitting, but I don't think she took me seriously. I told my mom that I hate kids, and she said, "No you don't!" as if she somehow magically knows what I'm thinking and feeling. I think it bothers her a little, because for many, hating kids is the equivalent of hating puppies; if you hate them, you must be a cold, unfeeling sociopath. I love puppies. I hate children.

I'm really good with kids, I can entertain them for ages.

I cannot really talk to adults because I basically fell out of society at 18 and haven't experienced adulthood.

Actually, I think it's important to make the distinction between children and babies. While I think I'm probably better with children than I am with most grown-ups, I'm bad with babies.