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Why? If all they want from such an exchange is a pre-assigned answer that they already know you're going to give them, then what's the point? Why initiate an interaction at all? Or, better yet, why not ask something which they would actually like to know the answer to?

#1012

Be mysterious, NT's like mystery and don't want to know every detail of your life (even if they ask for it) especially when you first meet them.

As trust gradually builds up (and trust for NT's can take some time) you can reveal pieces of private information about your life but never ever tell EVERYTHING, it will backfire you one way or another.

To make it any easier, stand at least an arm length away. (Some people are bad at inches)

Just because a store closes at a certain time or just because a restaurant or any places closes at a certain time doesn't mean you can come in right before they close rather it's five minutes or a half hour. Employees don't like staying late past their working hour. No pizza delivery person would want to deliver a pizza past their shift nor want to cook a pizza and they do not like it when people call them when they are close to closing to order a pizza because they have to cook it which means they would have to work past their shift when it had ended. No waiter or waitress and the cooks would want customers coming in shortly before closing because they have to cook the food and serve it to you and that makes them go past their shift.

Cashiers in stores are forced to stay until the last customer leaves.

Well that is why you see places that say they do do certain things past a certain time like the DMV near me does not do written tests when it's an hour before closing or a laundry mat near me has a sign saying do not start a load past eight o clock and they close at nine. I am sure there are restaurants that say they do not take orders past a certain time.


I dunno if I have posted this but I'll say it anyway, when staying at a hotel or a condo, do not trash it like leave lot of trash there or make it real messy because the room attendants have a time limit to clean rooms and they are not allowed to leave work until all their rooms are cleaned so if a room is real messy, it makes them take longer to clean it and it can make them go over time. I've worked at hotels and I learned this and I saw how frustrating it was how inconsiderate guests can be. Even though I wasn't the one to clean rooms but I still saw it and felt sorry for the room attendants because I cannot imagine that happening to me. Even though sometimes I see a room and the guests were considerate enough to have all the trash in a pile to make it easier for the room attendant or have all the dirty towels in a pile but I still wish they dump their own trash than leaving it in the room. It has to be hauled down to the dumpsters and that takes time away from cleaning. So the less trash they get, the less often they have to get a new trash bag to put more garbage in. That's why some hotels have extra workers that take the dirty linen and trash so the room attendants wouldn't have to do it but not all hotels have that. Usually the more expensive ones do like the Hilton because they are expecting lot of linen and trash and want to make it easier for their room attendants by having employees who will take it for them to save them the time. But leaving the room very messy and trashy still takes away the room attendants time because it takes them longer to clean it. I have helped strip out rooms and taking out the trash when I worked there. Didn't bother me but I couldn't believe how inconsiderate people can be. I then understood why my own dad always wanted to take out our own trash before we check out and didn't want to leave the whole room messy and wanted everything in the bathroom. My husband is the same way too except he won't leave any trash in there no matter how little it is. He just throws it away outside in the outside trash can.

Be careful when you say "good luck." People can take that as a negative meaning.

Do not vent about your problems over and over and not taking anyone's advice. It doesn't matter if you find their advice useless and unhelpful but if you vent about your same issues over and over, it will annoy people and upset them and soon they will think you are doing it for attention and sympathy.

If it's about another person you're having issues with or had issues with, people will think you are bullying and gossiping or think you're on a witch hunt.

Let other people be wrong. Even if their posts are full of spelling and grammar mistakes, and they have their facts wrong, let it stand. If you correct them, they won't believe you, and they'll resent you for it.

League_girl

People have different arm lengths from each other. Do you mean I should stand my own arm's length away or their arm's length away?

#1012

Money does NOT buy appreciation, respect or love
I repeat

Money does NOT buy appreciation, respect or love it does exactly the opposite



If you shower someone with expensive gifts, money... NT's will assume you are so desperate for love and they will see it as manipulation. They will soon lose all respect, appreciation or love that they might have had before and in some cases they will start to take advantage of your "kindness".


Gifts can be made (and in some cases should be) but do it with moderation, try to develop a common sence.

Are you serious? I never knew this? Do you have any specific examples?