ASPartOfMe wrote:
metalab wrote:
I have an amazing job that I love to go to. I live in the most perfect most apartment for myself. I have friends who adore me. I know older autistic people who direct and teach me. I know how to be sexually attractive, I've had girlfriends. I know how to go into any social situation and intermingle with people and form deep connections with people. I know how to be happy. Truly happy..
I have lived my life with similar self acceptance that is similar to yours in many ways. With the exception of the apartment for your self the above sounds like like extremely NT goals to aspire to.
We tell depressed people that everything seeming negative is not realistic, they are just can't see the positive side, and that they deserve to feel happiness. The problem I have with these "I have found the way to complete happiness" type posts that pop here on occasion is that it is denial of a part of the human experience. We are socialized with conflicting messages. We are constantly told to learn and express our feelings. But we soon learn the application of this philosophy is not consistent. When expressing negative feelings we are either told outright to stop expressing them or people try to convince us our feelings have no valid bases in reality or like in the case here you can train yourself out of them. You have correctly identified the damage NT's do to us when they convince us they are right and we have to emulate them. I see no reason why denying our negative emotions will not also do psychological damage.
metalab wrote:
Learn to say "I love you", to everyone.
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You completely lost me here. In my 57 years that is probably the most "be fake" advice I have ever received.
I note that the OP lives in Portland, Oregon an area that is more accepting of difference and "weirdness" then most locales.
This post is right on ASpartofME. I have read the OP and it sounds like a lot of positive vibe you can think your way to ultimate freedom speech that I have heard from certain people in my life. I've done my fair share of psychedelics, some of which aren't even known to most people, if many at all. I still smoke cannabis daily because it is my medicine, there are some of us who are so tortured that there is only relief in a simple herb. I have had meditation break me, my mind, cause psychosis, kensho and ultimately satori; however, all that whole mess has shown me, is how fantastically we can delude ourselves until ALL ROOTS ARE SEVERED AT THE CORE, meaning every single intention and sub-intention beyond that has to be released from the source, stop manifesting pain in this world and you will stop feeling pain, PERIOD. The problem lies in how much crap is in the way of this for most people.
The level the OP speaks is either talking from a new age pompous holier-than-thou type guy perspective or a been there and hey it's all good type perspective. I don't know which since it's just text... If there is intensity in emotion behind it, it isn't pure and real advice from the source. Only personal advice is sourceless. Otherwise a trippy read highlighting some zen-ish qualities and deepened philosophical views.
23 Sep 2014, 5:22 pm
