Writing without experience... Aspie problem

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Ok in general I haven't long got to learn the more specific rules of human body ques and so have hit a brick wall with my writing. How can I write a love scene with no experience of even so much as kissing another human being who is not family, and having only limited knowledge of the social and physical ques that are used in romantic situations. I have no plan to change this any time soon either!
I am writing this scene in first person and with the two characters who are a very loving couple that have been through everything together and are awaiting the arrival of their second child. And well I am not either of those people or in aby if their situations so not very sure where to go with making it up- and I've discovered it's not an easy subject to research.
Do any other writers have any clues on where to go with this or any personal tips on writing believable love.
Thank you

for what men like in bed, you can view some porn. for women, there's a great book called, "our bodies, ourselves."

Surely you've seen these types of scenes played out in movies. Use those for a frame of reference and then let your imagination paint the scene for you. Its not necessary to have experienced something personally to be able to imagine it. Your brain is a holodeck.

Porn is not an accurate representation of sex. A great deal of it is staged and edited.

I agree - steer clear of porn. Rather, look at mainstream movies with romantic scenes. But you know, you're the god of the universe you've created on paper. That being the case, the characters do what you want them to do, not what you think is expected of them in real life.

-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer

Uhm...not always necessarily true...sometimes fictional characters literally take on a life of their own, and may decide they're going to behave or move in directions you hadn't imagined when you started the story. Its one of the most fascinating parts of the creative process - I often feel like I'm somehow psychically looking into an alternate universe where these things are actually happening. At first they're dreamlike and hazy, like looking through cheesecloth, but the longer I look and the harder I stare, the sharper they become, until finally I can see them clearly enough to put them on paper (or screen, ATCMB).

Often, there are details in the scene, or actions being taken that are quite different than what my conscious mind imagined them to be when I first conceived the idea. In one instance, the action occurring in the scene was exactly as I had first imagined it, but a particular action was being performed by a completely different character than I originally thought it would be. As it turned out, the subconscious' idea was better.

Now you know how God must feel!

-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer

Indeed.