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03 Apr 2024, 6:00 am

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I meant who gives a s**t if it's the same questions being asked.

Because, at best, the cycle just continues. None of the sensible advice is ever followed. It’s just the same BS over and over again that, at worst, could even land Jamesy in legal trouble because certain members fail to take his past difficulties or the viewpoints of actual women into account. It may be a theory of mind issue when it comes to both things. It’s not like those members have ever demonstrated any interest or concern towards female members who’ve experienced harassment, grooming, or worse. Instead, they make dismissive comments - in this thread and historically. It’s just an interesting pattern of behavior.



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03 Apr 2024, 6:16 am

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babybird wrote:
I meant who gives a s**t if it's the same questions being asked.

Because, at best, the cycle just continues. None of the sensible advice is ever followed. It’s just the same BS over and over again that, at worst, could even land Jamesy in legal trouble because certain members fail to take his past difficulties or the viewpoints of actual women into account. It may be a theory of mind issue when it comes to both things. It’s not like those members have ever demonstrated any interest or concern towards female members who’ve experienced harassment, grooming, or worse. Instead, they make dismissive comments - in this thread and historically. It’s just an interesting pattern of behavior.




I could get in legal trouble you say?



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03 Apr 2024, 6:20 am

You could if your behavior is perceived as harassment or you could just get escorted out of places by security which has happened to you before in clubs/bars for similar reasons. I think the cold approach would be difficult for most people to pull off but especially for folks who struggle socially. It can easily go wrong.



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03 Apr 2024, 6:24 am

TwilightPrincess wrote:
babybird wrote:
I meant who gives a s**t if it's the same questions being asked.

Because, at best, the cycle just continues. None of the sensible advice is ever followed. It’s just the same BS over and over again that, at worst, could even land Jamesy in legal trouble because certain members fail to take his past difficulties or the viewpoints of actual women into account. It may be a theory of mind issue when it comes to both things. It’s not like those members have ever demonstrated any interest or concern towards female members who’ve experienced harassment, grooming, or worse. Instead, they make dismissive comments - in this thread and historically. It’s just an interesting pattern of behavior.


Would you accept the help if they did offer it

The way I see it is that this is a support forum for people of different capabilities in one way or another. If someone posts similar threads time after time that may have something to do with their ability to absorb information and advice.

If you see a post giving bad advice that could get a person into trouble then that post should be reported. It's not the fault of the person who is asking the question.

Maybe sometimes the op hasn't had any advice that has worked for him so that's why he asks a similar question sometimes I dunno

I'm really not gonna get into this anyway because it's not in the spirit of the thread.

Sorry op


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03 Apr 2024, 6:25 am

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You could if your behavior is perceived as harassment or you could just get escorted out of places by security which has happened to you before in clubs/bars for similar reasons. I think the cold approach would be difficult for most people to pull off but especially for folks who struggle socially. It can easily go wrong.



Yeah like that time back in October when I followed that girl and her sister into a bar/club



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03 Apr 2024, 6:31 am

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babybird wrote:
I meant who gives a s**t if it's the same questions being asked.

Because, at best, the cycle just continues. None of the sensible advice is ever followed. It’s just the same BS over and over again that, at worst, could even land Jamesy in legal trouble because certain members fail to take his past difficulties or the viewpoints of actual women into account. It may be a theory of mind issue when it comes to both things. It’s not like those members have ever demonstrated any interest or concern towards female members who’ve experienced harassment, grooming, or worse. Instead, they make dismissive comments - in this thread and historically. It’s just an interesting pattern of behavior.


Would you accept the help if they did offer it
What do you mean? I wasn’t asking for help.

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If you see a post giving bad advice that could get a person into trouble then that post should be reported. It's not the fault of the person who is asking the question.
Most often, advice can be bad but not against the rules in any way. That’s the problem. It’s okay to ask the same question although when the same question has been asked over and over again it might be a good idea to read back through old threads because the advice he’s given is the same too.



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03 Apr 2024, 6:32 am

TwilightPrincess wrote:
babybird wrote:
TwilightPrincess wrote:
babybird wrote:
I meant who gives a s**t if it's the same questions being asked.

Because, at best, the cycle just continues. None of the sensible advice is ever followed. It’s just the same BS over and over again that, at worst, could even land Jamesy in legal trouble because certain members fail to take his past difficulties or the viewpoints of actual women into account. It may be a theory of mind issue when it comes to both things. It’s not like those members have ever demonstrated any interest or concern towards female members who’ve experienced harassment, grooming, or worse. Instead, they make dismissive comments - in this thread and historically. It’s just an interesting pattern of behavior.


Would you accept the help if they did offer it
What do you mean?

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If you see a post giving bad advice that could get a person into trouble then that post should be reported. It's not the fault of the person who is asking the question.
Most often, advice can be bad but not against the rules in any way. That’s the problem. It’s okay to ask the same question although when the same question has been asked over and over again it might be a good idea to read back through old threads because the advice he’s given is the same too.



No I do remember what you have said before like people should not have to put up with my odd behaviour :roll:



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03 Apr 2024, 6:34 am

Maybe I’m concerned about you getting kicked out of bars, clubs, or worse. I’m sure you don’t want to make people uncomfortable, right?



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03 Apr 2024, 6:35 am

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Maybe I’m concerned about you getting kicked out of bars, clubs, or worse. I’m sure you don’t want to make people uncomfortable, right?



Maybe if autistic people were not hidden away from society in sheltered workshops the 'normal' people would be more tolerant.



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03 Apr 2024, 6:37 am

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Maybe I’m concerned about you getting kicked out of bars, clubs, or worse. I’m sure you don’t want to make people uncomfortable, right?



Maybe if autistic people were not hidden away from society in sheltered workshops the 'normal' people would be more tolerant.

Normal people aren’t going to become more tolerant, so we need to adapt our behavior. That’s just how it is.



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03 Apr 2024, 6:39 am

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Jamesy wrote:
TwilightPrincess wrote:
Maybe I’m concerned about you getting kicked out of bars, clubs, or worse. I’m sure you don’t want to make people uncomfortable, right?



Maybe if autistic people were not hidden away from society in sheltered workshops the 'normal' people would be more tolerant.

Normal people aren’t going to become more tolerant, so we need to adapt our behavior. That’s just how it is.



Well adapting can lead to autism burnout in the long term


Can you explain why the normies will never tolerate our different behaviour?



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03 Apr 2024, 6:44 am

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TwilightPrincess wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
TwilightPrincess wrote:
Maybe I’m concerned about you getting kicked out of bars, clubs, or worse. I’m sure you don’t want to make people uncomfortable, right?



Maybe if autistic people were not hidden away from society in sheltered workshops the 'normal' people would be more tolerant.

Normal people aren’t going to become more tolerant, so we need to adapt our behavior. That’s just how it is.



Well adapting can lead to autism burnout in the long term so therefore normal people need to accept us for who we are.
I don’t really adapt much myself. I mostly mean that you should be cautious about some of the advice your given - advice that could get you into trouble and upset others. Not following women around isn’t really adapting. It’s just a good choice for you and them.



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03 Apr 2024, 6:46 am

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Jamesy wrote:
TwilightPrincess wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
TwilightPrincess wrote:
Maybe I’m concerned about you getting kicked out of bars, clubs, or worse. I’m sure you don’t want to make people uncomfortable, right?



Maybe if autistic people were not hidden away from society in sheltered workshops the 'normal' people would be more tolerant.

Normal people aren’t going to become more tolerant, so we need to adapt our behavior. That’s just how it is.



Well adapting can lead to autism burnout in the long term so therefore normal people need to accept us for who we are.
I don’t really adapt much myself. I mostly mean that you should be cautious about some of the advice your given - advice that could get you into trouble and upset others. Not following women around isn’t really adapting. It’s just a good choice for you and them.




Getting into trouble is more of a male problem because we're precieved as more threatening.



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03 Apr 2024, 6:47 am

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Can you explain why the normies will never tolerate our different behaviour?

Have people ever made you uncomfortable? I’m autistic but certain behavior bothers me. I’d tell security if I felt like I was being stalked/followed around. It can be scary, especially for women who’ve been abused in the past. Many women have been.



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03 Apr 2024, 6:53 am

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It’s not like those members have ever demonstrated any interest or concern towards female members who’ve experienced harassment, grooming, or worse. Instead, they make dismissive comments - in this thread and historically. It’s just an interesting pattern of behavior.


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Would you accept the help if they did offer it. What do you mean? I wasn’t asking for help
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Just a question based on what you was saying

Also whether you think some advice might make a person come to harm if they follow through with it then it should be reported...whether you think it's against the site rules or not.

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03 Apr 2024, 6:54 am

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Can you explain why the normies will never tolerate our different behaviour?

Have people ever made you uncomfortable? I’m autistic but certain behavior bothers me. I’d tell security if I felt like I was being stalked/followed around. It can be scary, especially for women who’ve been abused in the past. Many women have been.



I go for a walk round my local woodland area most days on my own without a dog. Maybe I will get into legal trouble for that as well :roll:


Seriously though recently I walked past 2 women at my local pond and I think I overheard one of them saying "He seems suspicious"



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