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03 Apr 2024, 10:58 am

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I have enemies probably because I have not had a job for 10 years amd a history of self harming. I lie to them about having a job but they can probably see through it



You just added the bit about self-harming and telling lies, so I'll reply again.

Why would self-harming make people your enemy?
I'd imagine they either help you, or they become anxious and keep their distance.
That doesn't mean they are enemies.

Enemies are people who seek to hurt or weaken others.
Is that happening?
If it is, then there's even more reason you should consider making new friends.

Regarding the lies, why do you feel a need to lie about not working?
I thought you had a job.
Even if you don't, lying can usually be perceived by others.

Are you nervous about telling the truth about yourself and being judged?




Yes I don’t want to tell the truth because they might have me even more



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03 Apr 2024, 11:00 am

Try getting a barstool in future and read a newspaper or something

I have a habit of looking like I'm stalking prey when I'm wondering aimlessly


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03 Apr 2024, 11:03 am

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Try getting a barstool in future and read a newspaper or something

I have a habit of looking like I'm stalking prey when I'm wondering aimlessly



Someone said to me “maybe he was just trying to show of infront of those women”



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03 Apr 2024, 11:06 am

Oh was you gonna show them your dance moves


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03 Apr 2024, 11:07 am

Jamesy wrote:
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Try getting a barstool in future and read a newspaper or something

I have a habit of looking like I'm stalking prey when I'm wondering aimlessly

Someone said to me “maybe he was just trying to show of infront of those women”

How many experiences like that have you had in bars and clubs altogether (including comments like those, getting into fights, and getting kicked out)? I’m just trying to understand.

I think you should look for other ways to meet people.



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03 Apr 2024, 11:08 am

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Maybe Jamesy is talking about societal enemies as an abstract with regards to the enemies he mentions (because of being unemployed).

Society can be fairly hostile to economically inactive folk. There can be a lot of discrimination for people who don't have a job at a young age, I am sure people can relate to this.



I disagree, especially if the person has a known disability or reason for not working. Of course some people might find it objectionable but not everyone, and I'd hope it's not the people Jamesy considers friends.

On that note there can also be discrimination against people for other reasons. It's common for people to discriminate against - or at least notice and be wary of - those who are disingenuous, or those who knowingly make others uncomfortable without attempting to modify their behaviour when given supportive advice.

I'm not saying this is happening for Jamesy but he seems to think it is, or he wouldn't have mentioned it as a reason for having "enemies".



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Especially towards men who have to be breadwinners



Men don't have to be breadwinners in today's society.
That's a common misconception.
Most women work and are self-supporting.


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03 Apr 2024, 11:08 am

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babybird wrote:
Try getting a barstool in future and read a newspaper or something

I have a habit of looking like I'm stalking prey when I'm wondering aimlessly

Someone said to me “maybe he was just trying to show of infront of those women”

How many experiences like that have you had in bars and clubs altogether (including comments like those, getting into fights, and getting kicked out)? I’m just trying to understand.

I think you should look for other ways to meet people.



Not a lot of weirdo comments but I have been kicked out a lot



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03 Apr 2024, 11:09 am

I've had loads of fights in pubs and been kicked out but I never felt victimised like Jamesy seems to and I don't have a problem with it


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03 Apr 2024, 11:09 am

Jamesy wrote:
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Jamesy wrote:
babybird wrote:
Try getting a barstool in future and read a newspaper or something

I have a habit of looking like I'm stalking prey when I'm wondering aimlessly

Someone said to me “maybe he was just trying to show of infront of those women”

How many experiences like that have you had in bars and clubs altogether (including comments like those, getting into fights, and getting kicked out)? I’m just trying to understand.

I think you should look for other ways to meet people.



Not a lot of weirdo comments but I have been kicked out a lot

How many times?

What about fights?



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03 Apr 2024, 11:10 am

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Jamesy wrote:
babybird wrote:
Try getting a barstool in future and read a newspaper or something

I have a habit of looking like I'm stalking prey when I'm wondering aimlessly

Someone said to me “maybe he was just trying to show of infront of those women”

How many experiences like that have you had in bars and clubs altogether (including comments like those, getting into fights, and getting kicked out)? I’m just trying to understand.

I think you should look for other ways to meet people.



Not a lot of weirdo comments but I have been kicked out a lot

How many times?

What about fights?



Never had a fight just been kicked out for being drunk



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03 Apr 2024, 11:11 am

Getting kicked out for being too drunk is normal for a lot of people


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03 Apr 2024, 11:11 am

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I've had loads of fights in pubs and been kicked out but I never felt victimised like Jamesy seems to and I don't have a problem with it

Yeah, I’m just trying to demonstrate why he might want to branch out. If he’s going to the same bars and clubs, his chance of success would be about 0% because people talk, warn friends, etc.



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03 Apr 2024, 11:13 am

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I've had loads of fights in pubs and been kicked out but I never felt victimised like Jamesy seems to and I don't have a problem with it

Yeah, I’m just trying to demonstrate why he might want to branch out. If he’s going to the same bars and clubs, his chance of success would be about 0% because people talk, warn friends, etc.




I don’t understand why I am getting victimised. I never get angry or get into physical fights



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03 Apr 2024, 11:13 am

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Never had a fight just been kicked out for being drunk

I could’ve sworn you talked about getting kicked out for a fight a couple years ago.

You seem to mention a lot of comments too although you say that there haven’t been that many.

Can you think of other places you could meet people? Are there other things you like to do?



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03 Apr 2024, 11:14 am

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Never had a fight just been kicked out for being drunk

I could’ve sworn you talked about getting kicked out for a fight a couple years ago.

You seem to mention a lot of comments too although you say that there haven’t been that many.

Can you think of other places you could meet people? Are there other things you like to do?



Tell me then why pubs are not great places to socialise? It’s called a public house for a reason



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03 Apr 2024, 11:15 am

You wouldn't get victimised if you was out with me.

That's not an offer btw


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