Reasons women do not date us!

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Yeah that's some cocktail

One of my friends died a year ago of a ketamine overdose aged 41

That's really sad Jamesy. Sorry to hear that

Ketamine, ecstasy and cocaine all in one night?

You sound like an animal, Jamesy.

I don’t often do class A drugs I just wanted the experience of it

Fair enough.

Don't often

You're full of surprises you are Jamesy

Made some new friends recently from the pub (there boyfriend/girlfriend) and they’re constantly texting me day and night. They are a bit younger than me the girl is 21 and her boyfriend 26.

They might be eyeing you up for a threesome Jamesy.

OK that sounds interesting. You must keep us updated on that

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There the ones I did weed with

I good friend of mine once said to me "take it easy babybird and if you can get it easy, take it twice".

I sort of do and don't live by that rule

Can I just point something out?

I only know Jamesy through the time I've spent on this forum. In that time, I've learned that he lives at home, doesn't have a job, doesn't drive, works out a few times a week with weights, plays video games, goes drinking regularly, wanders the city at night, and sometimes does drugs like weed, ketamine, or cocaine.

Even big cities have small communities, and communities talk among themselves. Jamesy has been going to his bar, and hanging out with is "associates", for quite a long time. Bars tend to have well-known regulars. So odds are, the other bar patrons know Jamesy's drug-partaking friends, and what they do, and what he does with them. If me, a random stranger on the internet knows these things, I feel like the very people he socializes with in real life must know at least the same.

I get the "imma cool dude, pass the bong" vibe y'all was going for earlier, but does nobody else really see the issue here? The guy with no job, no money, and who's hobbies include recreational cocaine and ketamine, wonders why women won't give him a chance...

No offense to Jamesy, not saying he's a bad guy - but regardless of what kinda guy he is, those things are gonna be hard to get past, and I can't imagine they're a very well kept secret. It has been my experience that people are generally wary of associating with someone who may or may not have a drug habit.

But hey, maybe I'm wrong. Let me ask. Ladies, who here would befriend or date a guy who occasionally does hard drugs like cocaine and ketamine, in addition to regular alcohol use?

Again, not trying to bash anyone - just trying to make a point. Y'all can fuss about looks and money all you want - but crap like this often lurking in the background, overlooked or dismissed or ignored, despite it being a highly relevant factor. It's always "muh height" or "muh looks" or "muh money" or "muh autism" - but dig deep enough, and there's usually something else - an attitude problem, a drug problem, a self-control problem, an anger problem, some kinda actual problem, other than just "I'm not sexy enough".

^You're not wrong in anything you say here but all of this has been pointed out to Jamesy before and he's very resistant to changing anything that he doesn't want to change anyway, such as his appearance.

I don't feel we've ever got to the bottom of why Jamesy is so intent on hanging around in a pub where people think he's at best weird and at worst a paedophile but the question has been asked multiple times.