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11 Apr 2024, 9:03 am

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Ladies, who here would befriend or date a guy who occasionally does hard drugs like cocaine and ketamine, in addition to regular alcohol use?

There's more red flags here than at a matador convention.

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11 Apr 2024, 9:42 am

I would never date someone who does drugs like cocaine and ketamine. He could have everything else going for him in the world, but it would be an automatic dealbreaker. There is lots of concerning stuff in this thread and I’m not referring to the lack of career and concerns about physical appearance although the combination of a nose that’s been broken due to fighting and hard drugs can’t be good.

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11 Apr 2024, 9:44 am

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I would never date someone who does drugs like cocaine and ketamine. He could have everything else going for him in the world, but it would be an automatic dealbreaker. There is lots of concerning stuff in this thread and I’m not referring to the lack of career and concerns about physical appearance although combining a nose that’s been broken due to fighting and hard drugs can’t be good.

Yeah I know I feel embarrassed now

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11 Apr 2024, 9:46 am

Really though why would people at the pub think I am a pedophile?

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11 Apr 2024, 9:47 am

Jamesy wrote:

TwilightPrincess wrote:

I would never date someone who does drugs like cocaine and ketamine. He could have everything else going for him in the world, but it would be an automatic dealbreaker. There is lots of concerning stuff in this thread and I’m not referring to the lack of career and concerns about physical appearance although combining a nose that’s been broken due to fighting and hard drugs can’t be good.

Yeah I know I feel embarrassed now

Our goal isn’t to make you feel embarrassed but to help you understand that there are serious things you need to change/do differently.

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11 Apr 2024, 9:48 am

TwilightPrincess wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

TwilightPrincess wrote:

I would never date someone who does drugs like cocaine and ketamine. He could have everything else going for him in the world, but it would be an automatic dealbreaker. There is lots of concerning stuff in this thread and I’m not referring to the lack of career and concerns about physical appearance although combining a nose that’s been broken due to fighting and hard drugs can’t be good.

Yeah I know I feel embarrassed now

Our goal isn’t to make you feel embarrassed but to help you understand that there are serious things you need to change/do differently.

I don't understand the pedophile label?

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11 Apr 2024, 9:49 am

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Really though why would people at the pub think I am a pedophile?

It’s hard to say without being around you. Have you ever appeared to hit on girls who were underage? I know that you’ve made adult women uncomfortable sometimes.

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11 Apr 2024, 9:51 am

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Really though why would people at the pub think I am a pedophile?

They don't. If they did they would make it so you didn't set foot in the place again.

They're just saying these things because they can. Because for some reason they think it's funny

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11 Apr 2024, 9:55 am

Do people call others pedophiles (and other things) for no reason whatsoever? I’ve never seen that.

I don’t know why someone, especially someone with anxiety, would want to be around people like that. It would probably make those without anxiety anxious.

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11 Apr 2024, 10:00 am

I've seen and heard people calling other people those kinds of things.

It's baffling why people do the things they do.

Who knows why anyone would stay in and abusive environment when they can just easily walk away and never go back.

Jamesy must have his reasons and that's all I can fathom

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11 Apr 2024, 10:02 am

TwilightPrincess wrote:

This is a tricky one. People do it from time to time as a form of banter. British humour is a but different to US humour but I can't help but feel that when it comes to Jamesy this isn't done in a playful manner, rather to antagonise him.

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11 Apr 2024, 10:04 am

In abusive relationships, a person can’t just walk away because of the different loci of control, but here, he absolutely can.

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11 Apr 2024, 10:07 am

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I think most people do

A good friend of mine once told me everything in moderation and I kind of live by that

I prefer the philosophy of "Excess in Moderation"
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11 Apr 2024, 10:09 am

I was very careful to not say abusive relationships in my post because I am fully aware that Jamesy situation is not a relationship as in a relationship. But it is an abusive environment that for some reason he is choosing to keep going back to.

Maybe he's desperate for friends. Maybe he wants to be accepted by these people...who knows. Maybe he doesn't even know himself.

Sorry Jamesy.

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11 Apr 2024, 10:52 am

At the pub now having a few rounds with associates

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11 Apr 2024, 11:02 am

Yeah well you take it easy man

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