TwilightPrincess wrote:
A few of us have experienced a lot of s**t due to drugs/alcohol. I couldn’t just walk away from my ex on account of threats and stuff like that. It was scary, and it went on for years. Even if abuse wouldn’t be involved, I need peace and calm. I don’t need erratic behavior (autistic behavior is cool) or concerns about law enforcement doing their job.
Exactly. Most of my answers - and yours too, I believe - in Fairfield's satirical thread about how men can pick up women were based on terrifying and otherwise ridiculous situations I encountered with people who were drunk or on illegal drugs. When I wrote the comments some WP members thought I was joking, but I clarified repeatedly that it was my lived experience. That includes dealing with cops, lawyers, and having my children's wellbeing threatened. I know you've faced the same and the psychological recovery will be lifelong.
I'm a lowkey, introverted autistic person. I need routine, predictability, and control of my environment to feel safe.
Relationships are hard enough with all people including colleagues, friends, relatives, partners, etc., that I wouldn't add unnecessary risk and drama into my life for anyone's sake. It becomes emotionally manipulative, insidious, and exhausting to put their needs ahead of my own all the time, or live in constant fear of the next potential crisis.
I know everyone who dabbles recreationally might not be like that, but it's not a chance I'm willing to take again.
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