What did my brother mean?

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When I was 18 9 years ago my brother said to me "you will never kiss a girl because you have an unattractive body"

Regardless if that's an unfair remark what do you think he might have meant exactly by "unattractive body'?

Back then I was 5ft7 and a little over 168 pounds of bodyfat. These days I am still 5ft7 except I weigh 155 pounds of muscle currently.

Could he have been mad at you? I don't think your body type always has much to do with whether you get kissed or not.

There's no way for anyone to know what he might have meant by something he said almost 10 years ago.

But I'd say if we had to guess, he chose to insult your weight. When people want to insult someone and try to hurt them, making fun of their weight is easy and the go-to insult.

At 5'7" and 155 your weight is normal. So don't worry about what was said by someone when you were 18.

Why are you dwelling on something your brother who sounds kind of like a jerk said 9 years ago he was probably just trying to make you feel bad. But, perhaps it would be a good idea to try focusing on the here and now and let some of that stuff go. I don't think it is healthy to dwell on negative things people have said to you in the past, makes it hard to create any kind of positive outlook.

Not being judgemental I have issues sometimes getting stuck in thinking loops about the past, sometimes I just gotta verbally tell my brain 'stop it' and do something to distract.