Total Confusion: Invited by an engaged coworker girl.

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It's the same girl that I talked about in thread: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt50737.html

and in thread : http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt52810.html


She's a coworker ,and she invited me to a lunch with her alone on Friday just before leaving while were waiting for the elevator :-/ , I told her that I have to see if I am gonna be free this Friday and I ll answer her tomorrow (nothing else came into my mind), she said that's she's waiting for my confirmation tomorrow.

I have no idea what this kind of sudden invitation from an engaged girl means? Is she seeking just friendship or something else?
Friendship between the genders is not that common in my culture and not very socially accepted, such kinds of invitation (inviting a girl/guy alone) are directly explained as acts of love interest. As much as this girl sounded crazy and rude in the previous she was being cute ,flirty and nice to me since the second thread ....I am kinda opportunist guy for such things .

What I don't understand that why a girl which she was being engaged for 4 years would invite me for a tête-à-tête lunch? I didn't show her any special interest (well, just counter-rude comments and counter-flirting). She told us once (I was among a group) that her Fiancée is a young guy like me and she picked him by herself as her fiancée four years ago against the well of her mother because she thinks that the guy is financially "uncomfortable" ( he still doesn't have his own apartment,low salary like most guys here... and the like) in short the girl is not in an enforced relationship.Besides, I admit that he looks better than me in all physical aspects and I am not doing better financially than him at all , the girl herself is taller and more meaty than me...girls usually don't romantically like slimmer and/or shorter guys.

So this invitation can't be a date.... but what it can be???? The whole thing sounds very fishy and doesn't make any sense. I don't know what to answer her tomorrow , I don't want to get involved in any possibility of cheating + I don't like the idea of going out with a female coworker! In other hand , I don't want to misjudge her intentions.

Pffff , I was never been invited by a girl before, not as friend and not as potential partner ...now I am invited by an engaged girl, what a bastard luck!

**drawing on sand a big H.E.L.P!**

Its a friendship thing. Tell her your busy and see what she does.

Do you like her in a non-romantic way? I.e. is she someone you would like to have as a friend if she also just wanted friendship? If so, in your place I would go but if she made any advances I'd reject them.

Is she taller than you?

^^ hi kid020 , glad to see you back.

I'm not kid020... I just said that because you always attribute your failure to get women to your 5'3"-ness...

I'm not accusing anyone of anything... I'm merely stating my observation based on things you have said...

Why don't you contribute in the thread and answer to the main topic like a sane user instead of trying to psychologically analyzing me? Or just don't reply if you don't want to.

Thanks

I HATE EVERYONE AHHH!! !! !!

Based on what you've shared so far, I suspect that she finds you attractive. You are an unusual person and it sounds like she is, too. You're probably more intriguing than this guy who has been stringing her along for four years. I hate to be a jerk, but maybe you can get them to break up, if you hang out with her.

If you end up being just friends, hey, at least you got the experience of being one-on-one with a woman who seems to enjoy your company.

gwen.....I am surprised ,I see..... a twisty dark side in you ! I like that !