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18 Oct 2013, 1:57 am

Could a Person with Asperger's Syndrome ever date/marry a Person who is NT is it Legal or Lawful thank you ?



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18 Oct 2013, 2:29 am

Yeah we can marry & date NTs thou we are more likely to have problems getting a date & within a relationship due to us being different. There's no laws against it & I cant imagine why there would be. Lots here are or have been in relationship with NTs & some are or have been married to them. There's also NTs here who are married or in relationships with Aspies & here to learn.


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18 Oct 2013, 3:14 am

Why wouldn't it be legal? :?



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18 Oct 2013, 6:33 am

I'm married to an NT and I am Dx'd with AS, so yes, it is possible.

I was Dx'd long after I was married, but in any case there is no legal impediment whatsoever to Aspies getting married to NT - at least, not in my country (Australia).



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18 Oct 2013, 6:38 am

No, because one of them would probably melt.



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18 Oct 2013, 7:32 am

We can marry NTs, LGBTs, and even each other!


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18 Oct 2013, 8:04 am

If you are willing to be uncomfortable at times and learn how to adapt and accomodate your behavior to match them then yes you can marry an NT.

You need to adapt though. They have far more options than we do usually.



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18 Oct 2013, 8:20 am

Kinme wrote:
No, because one of them would probably melt.


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18 Oct 2013, 8:35 am

yes duh



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18 Oct 2013, 11:39 am

Fnord wrote:
We can marry NTs, LGBTs, and even each other!
To clareify we can only marry LGBTs in certain areas unless they are the opposite sex; lots of states in the US(especially conservative 1s) still won't allow gay marriage.


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18 Oct 2013, 11:45 am

Kinme wrote:
No, because one of them would probably melt.


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18 Oct 2013, 8:31 pm

This is an interesting question. Well, the answer to that question is yes. The reason why for that answer is because even though we're different from one another it doesn't mean that the relationship or marriage isn't going to work out. There are ways to make a relationship or marriage work between an Aspie and an NT like visiting a psychologist to get answers about Asperger's Syndrome and figure out ways to prevent the diagnosis from getting in the way of a relationship or marriage. Does anyone agree with me?



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19 Oct 2013, 7:40 am

basenick20 wrote:
This is an interesting question. Well, the answer to that question is yes. The reason why for that answer is because even though we're different from one another it doesn't mean that the relationship or marriage isn't going to work out. There are ways to make a relationship or marriage work between an Aspie and an NT like visiting a psychologist to get answers about Asperger's Syndrome and figure out ways to prevent the diagnosis from getting in the way of a relationship or marriage. Does anyone agree with me?


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19 Oct 2013, 7:45 am

Kinme wrote:
No, because one of them would probably melt.

One will have the other for breakfast or drink.



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20 Oct 2013, 8:57 am

I have to agree with coffee bean on this one because even though we're different people when it comes to diagnoses we can still find the person we're meant to be with for the rest of our lives. Does anyone else agree with me or coffee bean?