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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Anyone get fed up with being shy/socially anxious? |
| Beef_n00dles |
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Posted: 20 Feb 2013, 5:59 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 2,458
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| Now, if you want to make yourself more social.. sorry you will probably never be able to do that, if you are predisposed from birth to derive energy from solitude, oh woe is you, listen just learn to enjoy it, because, well, there isn't much you can do about that without wearing a mask,. Sorry but ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Anyone get fed up with being shy/socially anxious? |
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Posted: 20 Feb 2013, 3:44 pm
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Replies: 6
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| My key to overcoming anxiety is to handle it in small bite sized chunks, heck, you can make the chunks as small as you like, assuming you're not running against the clock. I can remember being nervous to visit the local grocery store all by myself (I was 22 years old, but I had never done something ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: to aspie men here: how you do with other males |
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Posted: 20 Feb 2013, 3:13 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 4,678
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| I haven't befriended a lot of men lately to be honest, I usually choose women just because I'm fascinated by the prospect of possibly falling in love with them. With that said, men don't usually approach me as often it seems, at least, as of late. I've noticed women tend to enjoy talking about a gre... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Please can someone explain this bizarre NT behaviour! |
| Beef_n00dles |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2013, 7:07 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 4,278
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| There is no worthy explanation other than that people can be jerks. And people say things out of habit that sound good in the moment that they never follow through with, there's no hidden intricate explanations. When trying to decipher NT intentions, don't look too far.. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How did you describe your ASD traits to yourself before Dx? |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2013, 11:52 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 2,466
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| Well I knew by the time I was around 12, even though back then I couldn't really comprehend what exactly aspergers was. I kept hearing developmental delay, but didn't really understand. I guess I thought I had no obligation to interact with other people on the level I do today. I can remember specif... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Girl approaches, clearly flirts, and then talks about bf |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2013, 11:42 pm
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Replies: 40
Views: 9,085
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| I think this is pretty common, the girl who was attracted to me in college openly talked about her boyfriend every single chance she got. It's possible that she wants to make you jealous. Or that she is very concerned with her relationship at this point, I've noticed some women can feel trapped at s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What is your reaction to conflict... |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2013, 11:31 pm
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Replies: 31
Views: 3,281
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| If I can argue my point without it being overlooked I might attempt to do so in a calm composed manner. If I can't I will just continue to say "ok", "alright", "I understand" until they relax. If they try a personal attack I'll just sort of give the impression of absorbing it by looking at the groun... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What's it like to have a girlfriend/boyfriend |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2013, 11:13 pm
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Replies: 53
Views: 10,477
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| If one day counts for anything, it initially seemed overrated to me. It's those moments were they aren't with you but you know they might return to you that are the most precious I think. And yeah the fact that someone else cares about what you are up to, and what might happen to you gives you quite... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is it wrong to be verbose? Chased off another forum board... |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2013, 7:57 pm
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Replies: 88
Views: 7,622
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| I make it my objective to explain things as well as I can, it's a passion of mine as well, I love words. But I implicitly try to dissuade anyone of any early judgments that I am acting pretentiously. I try to use humor, which shows humility well, along with a cheeky attitude every now and then to tr... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do you miss someone right now? |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2013, 2:12 am
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Replies: 2,709
Views: 470,151
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| Not really anymore, probably for the first time in a long time. I guess that's a good thing, or maybe not.. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you feel about having a kid. |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2013, 1:55 am
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Replies: 52
Views: 5,201
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| I feel like I would be surrendering the center of my life to such a burden. Given the fact that I understand how great it might feel to hold the result of a genetic mixing between me and the love of my life in my hands, I still wouldn't make the decision to have the child. Children never ask to be b... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Anyone else have no interest in socializing? |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2013, 1:39 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 14,364
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| I feel like I could go weeks without any interaction with other people and I'd be fine. It's difficult to want to put up with all the little rules of social discourse. I'm not saying people are easy to offend in general, but before you say anything you always have to be very careful about what you m... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: has any aspie become normal? |
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Posted: 14 Feb 2012, 11:29 am
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Replies: 67
Views: 7,575
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| My symptoms have become less severe through the years, yes. I believe that most of the underlying traits of aspergers syndrome are caused by the fact that children with aspergers syndrome develop social skills much later than others. This explains the fact that people with aspergers internalize, and... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Odd things that you make you feel irrationally angry? |
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Posted: 13 Feb 2012, 8:48 pm
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Replies: 148
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| My brother smiling at me used to bother me, but it's usually because I associated it with him laughing after I made some mistake, but instead of laughing he'd smile at me. People being in the same room with me well I'm eating (other than dinner time, which I'm too used to), I'm not worried about the... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Lucid dreams. |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2012, 6:36 pm
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Replies: 40
Views: 4,580
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| Lucid dreaming was one of my main obsessions, still is occasionally. Sometimes I'll be somewhat lucid if I happen to have my sleep disturbed sometime in the night, and my brain gets woken up. But yeah, I've been lucid dreaming for over 10 years, and about 8 years of trying to induce them. It's a pai... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Don't "look" like an aspie |
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Posted: 11 Feb 2012, 2:57 pm
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Replies: 33
Views: 4,430
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| I have a big head, and look a few years younger than I am. But I don't think many people would think I have a mental "disorder". I make sure to have great posture, and I try to smile, I like to smile, but it doesn't always come naturally. |
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