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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Theory: people with a happy childhood don't 'get it'. |
| ValaMephista |
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Posted: 03 Nov 2012, 5:41 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 3,135
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| While I do understand what you're saying, I as a rule don't like hearing anybody say that anyone "doesn't get it" mainly because sometimes the worst thing you can do to someone is tell them that--it's equivalent to telling them they are just an insensitive jerk who doesn't care, or at worst has no h... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: a dating site for women who are looking for men to marry? |
| ValaMephista |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2012, 12:46 pm
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Replies: 43
Views: 11,141
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| Have you ever tried to look for decent women in your own area? I'm not saying it's a bad thing to be interested in dating a foreigner, I just hope you don't think you're so undesirable that you have to resort to just grabbing some random girl off the Internet who's mainly just looking for a green ca... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Does crying over empathy mean I don't have AS? |
| ValaMephista |
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Posted: 12 Jun 2012, 12:21 am
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Replies: 47
Views: 7,904
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| I'm trying to wrap my mind around what you just said. I think there are enough common reactions in people that it doesn't make you dumb to be predicting those. It's not as though NTs don't have problems predicting the reaction of one particular person. That only comes with time and getting to know t... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Who identifies with these lyrics? |
| ValaMephista |
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Posted: 16 May 2012, 9:27 pm
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Replies: 6
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| I was listening to Plummet's "Damaged" yet again a little earlier and I thought I'd post the lyrics, just to see if anyone else here identifies with them. Dreaming comes so easily 'Cause it's all that I know True love is a fairy tale I'm damaged so how would I know I'm scared and I'm alone I'm asham... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: The honorable hobo |
| ValaMephista |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2012, 10:36 pm
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Replies: 17
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| first impression: Christopher McCandless That was my first thought too. Unfortunately, his story didn't end so well, but that doesn't mean yours has to end in the same way. On the other hand, what are your true reasons for wanting to do this? To be free from society's expectations of the college de... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are You Able to Hide Your Aspergers? |
| ValaMephista |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2012, 7:30 pm
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Replies: 88
Views: 15,839
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| I think I'm largely able to hide it--in fact, I wonder how many people would actually believe me if I just came out and said it. I was introduced to a guy a few years ago I was told was an Aspie, but I'll be danged if I could tell that he was either. On the other hand, there are others I know who ar... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: If Autism is a ''good thing'', why do most have anger? |
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Posted: 07 Nov 2011, 10:57 am
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Replies: 45
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| Exactly. NTs talk about how everybody has value, how no one should be put down or treated disrespectfully, and how one should give comfort to someone who's hurting...but the unspoken fact is that we are usually the exceptions to all the rules. Sure, sometimes we do inadvertently offend people, but a... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Am I Self-Indulgent, or Does Mom need to Back Off? |
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Posted: 25 Oct 2011, 1:49 pm
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Replies: 11
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icyfire4w5 wrote: I'm sorry that I can't help you much, but let me state something politically incorrect here. Most parents are as flawed as non-parents. They might be nice to their own spouses and children but mean to outsiders.
Or vice versa. |
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Forum: Off the Wall: Forum Games, Quizzes, Roleplaying, etc. Topic: Corrupt A Wish |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2011, 1:01 am
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Replies: 19,015
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Granted. You killed all your neighbors in a drug-induced rage you don't even remember.
I wish our local symphony director would get into symphonic metal. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I am in serious trouble. |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2011, 10:49 pm
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Replies: 14
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See, even that is a tiny ray of light. And hey, maybe you could use this time to experiment with new mediums.
I'm sorry you and your family have to suffer because of your brother's choices.  |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Yeah,so, |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2011, 9:15 pm
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Replies: 8
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| I'd suggest forgetting about her, as she does not seem to be worth a second thought, and end your friendship with that guy. That will make you feel much better. Hatred is key to self-confidence. Uh, I don't understand the logic here. How does hating someone else make you feel better about yourself?... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: religion and "mental illness" |
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Posted: 23 Jan 2011, 11:16 pm
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Replies: 104
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| IMHO, it isn't just "mental illness" in any form that is treated this way by the conservative church. It's any form of non-conformity to their overcontrolled, uber-bland form of social norms--it's having too many tattoos, drinking even socially, listening to the wrong music, belonging to the wrong p... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: your "fingernails on a chalkboard" |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2011, 10:35 pm
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Replies: 125
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| Some people´s lips make crackling sounds when they talk (I guess due to moistness). I hate this sound. Especially if they are speaking into a microphone. I'm not the only one?! Ever since I was tiny I've been irritated by people who smack or drip their consonants, sounding like they're slurping a s... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Most Embarassing Albums to Own |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2011, 11:16 pm
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Replies: 104
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| I think I can one-up just about everybody here. I was raised on Contemporary Christian, and I still have a few CDs from artists like Twila Paris, Steven Curtis Chapman, etc. But the band I was a die-hard fan of during my early teen years was...a Christian boy band called Plus One. I had a crush on t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you flinch a lot? |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2011, 11:26 pm
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Replies: 24
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I flinch in my dreams. Seriously. If I have a nightmare where, say, someone tries to grab me, I fall off a building, etc. etc. etc., I'll usually flinch and wake up.  |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: The unusual food thread |
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Posted: 04 Jan 2011, 8:50 pm
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Replies: 71
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| I think the weirdest food I've ever had was fried snake skin, which is exactly as disgusting as it sounds. Ok, maybe more disgusting. I saw the discussion of Asian foods a couple pages back--I love most of the things mentioned there, since I spent a year living in China. I miss stuff like red bean p... |
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