Do crazy people make you uncomfortable?

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18 Jan 2012, 2:57 am

After seeing some of those youtube videos posted by this woman named Melissa who claims she is being bullied in her home. It was posted in the autism politics section and I watched some of her videos and I could tell she was just nuts. The videos she took of her being bullied were just people doing their normal activities. Driving down the road, leaving the auto shop and everyone is minding their own business and this woman was claiming they are all bullying her If I saw her in real life, I know she would freak me out and make me uncomfortable I can imagine why that be the reason one one of her former neighbors ignored her and why she possibly moved, to get away from that drama. That is what I do to people all the time when they make me uncomfortable. When I can see someone is crazy, I go silent and it feels like I have a shutdown because I can't speak because that is how uncomfortable I am. So I just continue doing my thing not saying a word to them. I have seen some crazy people in real life and I can just tell they are crazy just by how they are acing and what they are saying. There was once a woman on the bus who was ranting about how she hated being black and how other black people discriminate against her. Now this didn't make any sense so I thought she is delusional because why would people discriminate against their own skin color? Plus she kept saying "I hate being black, I wish I was white" and then this woman starts talking on her cell phone at the back of the bus and the black woman starts yelling at her for "picking on her" when all that lady was doing was minding her own business and not doing anything wrong so that part really did convince me she was crazy but instead the bus driver threatened the crazy women that he would throw her off if she is going to be harassing the other riders and I was just so glad when I got off that bus. Does anyone else get uncomfortable around crazy people?


I don't do this just to crazy people, other people who have public meltdowns or who start screaming at someone also make me uncomfortable, same as if I see drama with strangers or when one of them starts ranting to me about stuff going on in their lives or something bad that just recently happened. All makes me uncomfortable. Anyone else with this problem too? I know this is perfectly normal but I wonder if autistic people ever get these fears.

Yeah I also get uncomfortable when I see strangers talking to themselves so sue me.



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18 Jan 2012, 3:03 am

Not at all.

In my experience the crazy people are also the most fun.

And, in the end, aren't we all a little crazy?


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18 Jan 2012, 3:14 am

I'm not afraid of my own peoples.


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18 Jan 2012, 3:22 am

I visited a relative in a mental hospital once. Scared the heck outta me.

But these days, I work with folk with dementia on a daily basis. Criminally insane folk still scare me, but run of the mill crazy ain't a problem.


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18 Jan 2012, 3:28 am

I feel a bit like a crazy person myself :) And many people treat me like one, simply because I don't make eye contact and have a weird / rigid body posture. I can often tell when somebody feels alienated or threatened by me (store clerks for example), and it's always a devastating experience.

Many so-called crazy people are schizophrenic. While schizophrenia has a genetic component, there are also environmental triggers involved. The genetic basis of schizophrenia is basically a risk factor like a predisposition for heart disease. So people who suffer from this condition really were victims of bullying at some point, which triggered their neurological problems. Now they see bullies and hostility at every corner. They are victims of society, not jerks who go out of their way to annoy and threaten others.

I feel sorry for them, and usually find them less threatening than neurotypical people. I remember when I went to work by bus, I'd often wait in a nearby park rather than sitting at the bus stop for 30 minutes. Sometimes I sat down next to a homeless person when I couldn't find an empty bench (many homeless people are schizophrenic btw). I didn't care if they were muttering to themselves, I do that myself when I'm at home. My social anxiety is mainly a fear of being judged by others, and I knew that they wouldn't judge me. No matter how weird I might seem, they had seen weirder things.



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18 Jan 2012, 3:29 am

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
I'm not afraid of my own peoples.


I like that reply :) That's what I was trying to say too, in a nutshell.



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18 Jan 2012, 3:36 am

Btw, there are studies that prove that people with schizophrenia, bipolar disorder and dementia don't have an increased rate of violence. The percentage of violent criminals among people with these mental disorders is just as low as the number of clinically sane people who commit violent crimes. The main risk factor for violent behavior is substance abuse.



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18 Jan 2012, 3:53 am

My aunt has schizophrenia but she has never scared me because I have never seen her have any episodes. She was always normal. Then when she was in the hospital for a few years, mom wouldn't let me go see her because she wasn't the person I knew and mom knew I would get very upset and get scared because she could be blaming me for her being there like she has with other people.


My grandma has scared me when she started to get Alzheimer and it was getting worse because she started to act out and it scare me. One time she had her hands out at me with her finger nails out and growled and it scared me. Then I didn't want to be around her much when I started to hear bad things about her like how she be a b***h to her caregivers by being nasty to them and I didn't want that happening to me so it was a red flag for me to stay away. But now she is better because thanks to her memory being so bad, she doesn't know what is going on so she won't even start being nasty to someone for no reason. So she doesn't scare me anymore.


There are certain things out there that scare me. I don't think it makes me a bad person. I used to think I was a wuss and had something wrong with me until mom told me it's normal and lot of people feel that way. I know I have scared people too but I don't care about it because they don't know me. They don't know what I am going to do to them. I just don't like being a victim myself or get treated badly by others so when I see that with others, I get scared of them. I never liked being screamed at for no reason nor being falsely accused or getting verbally abused so those people are going to scare me. I guess people who aren't afraid of those people probably wouldn't care if they got this treatment by them.

I admit even people with maybe autism have scared me because I didn't know what was going on and I thought they were making fun of me but mom would tell me those people have problems. I suspect they may have had autism but it could have been something else that made them act out or stare at me for no reason. I was a kid then. This was very ironic of me that they frighten me or upset me thinking I was being made fun of by them not even knowing they were different themselves. Today they wouldn't scare me because I know better now but the other stuff I described in my OP still does.



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18 Jan 2012, 4:14 am

People that are considered normal scare me.

I have had public meltdowns before. Would that make me crazy or autistic?


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18 Jan 2012, 4:22 am

artrat wrote:
People that are considered normal scare me.

I have had public meltdowns before. Would that make me crazy or autistic?



If I saw you have one, I would get scared no doubt. I wouldn't know you so I wouldn't know what problem you have.

PS I have had public meltdowns too and I am sure people have gotten scared by them and it doesn't upset me. I know everyone has ignored me during them and it could be because they felt uncomfortable so all they can do is act like they don't notice a thing. I would rather be ignored than get negative attention. Then there have been some people that have been helpful.


Unless we were both at an autism group and you had one, I wouldn't get scared.



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18 Jan 2012, 4:29 am

No more than anyone else. Everyone makes me feel uncomfortable.

"Crazy" people tend to leave you alone more than typical people though, so they have a plus over the typical to me.



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18 Jan 2012, 4:35 am

League_Girl wrote:
artrat wrote:
People that are considered normal scare me.

I have had public meltdowns before. Would that make me crazy or autistic?



If I saw you have one, I would get scared no doubt. I wouldn't know you so I wouldn't know what problem you have.

PS I have had public meltdowns too and I am sure people have gotten scared by them and it doesn't upset me. I know everyone has ignored me during them and it could be because they felt uncomfortable so all they can do is act like they don't notice a thing. I would rather be ignored than get negative attention. Then there have been some people that have been helpful.


Unless we were both at an autism group and you had one, I wouldn't get scared.

I get scared when people scream in public weather they are crazy or not. Loud drunks are the worse.
My meltdowns probably make people feel uncomfortable.


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18 Jan 2012, 4:45 am

Dillogic wrote:
No more than anyone else. Everyone makes me feel uncomfortable.

"Crazy" people tend to leave you alone more than typical people though, so they have a plus over the typical to me.



Based in my own experience they don't. Them screaming at you for no reason or blaming you or falsely accusing you isn't leaving you alone. You can just be walking by minding your own business and then all of a sudden someone starts accusing you of something you weren't even doing. That's not leaving you alone. Or you talk on your cell phone and some random stranger starts to yell at you falsely accusing you of talking about them, that isn't leaving you alone. Even if these people are typical, I still think of them as crazy because normal people wouldn't do this. They wouldn't get this paranoid.


Maybe my own experience has gotten me this scared and the stories I would hear from people about someone who has problems and watching too many movies. But real life experience and hearing about it is bad enough for me to get scared.



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18 Jan 2012, 4:48 am

artrat wrote:
League_Girl wrote:
artrat wrote:
People that are considered normal scare me.

I have had public meltdowns before. Would that make me crazy or autistic?



If I saw you have one, I would get scared no doubt. I wouldn't know you so I wouldn't know what problem you have.

PS I have had public meltdowns too and I am sure people have gotten scared by them and it doesn't upset me. I know everyone has ignored me during them and it could be because they felt uncomfortable so all they can do is act like they don't notice a thing. I would rather be ignored than get negative attention. Then there have been some people that have been helpful.


Unless we were both at an autism group and you had one, I wouldn't get scared.

I get scared when people scream in public weather they are crazy or not. Loud drunks are the worse.
My meltdowns probably make people feel uncomfortable.



I did also mention in my OP I don't do this just to crazy people, other people who bla bla bla.

I didn't know how to title the OP so I had to pick. I obviously didn't want my thread to be just about being scared by crazy people.



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18 Jan 2012, 4:59 am

Dillogic wrote:
No more than anyone else. Everyone makes me feel uncomfortable.

"Crazy" people tend to leave you alone more than typical people though, so they have a plus over the typical to me.


What he said. Except that they don't leave me alone; they gravitate to me.


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18 Jan 2012, 5:19 am

League_Girl,

I've been in mental hostels (inpatient), and the "crazy" people never bothered me there (I guess you could say I was a part of the "crazy", but I never bothered anyone). I've been around a few people who were in an acute psychotic state, but they were bothering their hallucinations, not me. The people with mania never bothered me either. Now, normal people have always been the ones to bother me, which makes me more uncomfortable.

I guess it's our experiences that will define this.