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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Should I seek a dating coach or a therapist? |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2025, 8:39 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 268
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| I think it would be a good idea. Although I think people that see a therapist, have to be realistic. A date can't be guaranteed of course, but therapy must be in a way that the chances are drastically improved, because the person has worked on social skills, has become more attractive to the other s... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Berating myself for not prioritising dating over other stuff |
| hmk66 |
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Posted: 27 Aug 2025, 3:06 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 227
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| It did not work for me. I have been single for years until 2018, when I did meet someone. My experience is that nothing will happen if I don't do anything. But nothing will happen, too, when I am obsessed with dating, relationships. It didn't work for me, for years. I know there is some kind of coac... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Women drifting into my path & forcing me to adjust |
| hmk66 |
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Posted: 11 Aug 2025, 10:28 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 154
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It is egocentrism or selfishness.
They don't care about others. But I do care. If you don't want a collision between cars, why not also bumping into others. I anticipate where other people want to walk to. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Women drifting into my path & forcing me to adjust |
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Posted: 09 Aug 2025, 1:54 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 154
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| I experience something similar, but I think it's milder and there is no difference between men and women in this respect. People don't anticipate where they are walking. I do anticipate. Actually I copied this from driving (trying to find out what the other drivers want, where they want to go to) to... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What's something you do very well and you're proud of? |
| hmk66 |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2025, 12:43 am
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Replies: 70
Views: 13,175
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| I was driving in London with a rental car, a BMW 320d. I live in a country with right hand driving. Left hand driving is not a problem for me at all, since a few years. While native British recommends against driving in London (sometimes they are right, it is better to use a Lime bike or take public... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Did your Autism get better with age? |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2025, 12:39 am
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Replies: 69
Views: 54,394
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| Certain autistic traits decreases. I am getting more social, don't suffer from overstimulation. I think my intelligence increases. I think I get smarter by aging. I am almost 59 years old. I think that my high intelligence completely cancels certain autistic behaviour. Sensory issues stay. I feel (l... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Did your former bullies ever contact you in adulthod? |
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Posted: 01 Jul 2025, 9:57 pm
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Replies: 31
Views: 3,680
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| Not by means of social media, Facebook or X or the like. One (female) bully I saw in train. Another on a station of a place where I didn't expect him. If an ex-bully sincerely apologize to me, I am open for it. I won't shut the door. I had a talk with the femaly bully. She was a young attractive wom... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I suppose that I am not on the spectrum despite AS diagnosis |
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Posted: 01 Jul 2025, 9:49 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 1,695
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| I may have lost many symptoms, but neurologically I will always be autistic. For someone on the spectrum I am very social, extraverted and I am rarely overstimulated. I don't disike parties, crouds and noise. Understimulation is more of an issue; definitely an autistic trait. I also have problems wi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autistic people seeing through nonsense |
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Posted: 28 Jun 2025, 2:33 am
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Replies: 63
Views: 5,352
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| I can relate to that. I am told that people on the autism spectrum have a problem with Theory of Mind (I think, that is related to this topic). I thougt, well... let's work on that. The first thing I thought of, is the Sally and Ann test. It's about absolute truth and personal truth or perception. W... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism and Hunger |
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Posted: 28 Jun 2025, 1:21 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,315
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| Mine is high, but I am not fat, on the border of healthy weight and slight overweight. When I am ill, my appetite lowers and restores after recovering. I am not a picky eater. When I am in a foreign country, I like to eat something from that country's cuisine. In Japan and South Africa I ate the mos... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being Overly secretive and private |
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Posted: 10 Jun 2025, 6:58 am
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Replies: 34
Views: 5,727
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| When I was 8 years old, I tried to socialize but that had a high price. I thought: "This is not going to work for a long time. I will try again later." So, I had to wait 20 years, until the bullying was over. On the school for pupils between 12 and 18 years old, bullying got worse, I was a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Am I very attractive? |
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Posted: 29 May 2025, 1:30 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 5,847
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| How attractive you are is secondary to whether they want to form a relationship with a man. It is reversed for men. Attractiveness comes first, as men aren't as limited by their wife's wealth and status. This is not much the case anymore in many places. Looks matters for both now. There is a new ph... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Stop with these delusions please. |
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Posted: 27 May 2025, 5:12 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 3,031
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| I don’t know who he is but this guy is saying exactly what I said in both threads in super brief way. I am surprised that the lady is surprised, it is common sense. [...] I agree with him as well. And I am surprised as well. But... if the woman shows it, I am confused. She may just want attention, ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Toni Braxton’s son was not cured of autism and it’s irresponsible for her to say so |
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Posted: 23 May 2025, 11:37 pm
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Replies: 121
Views: 25,239
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| Read Full Article A few days ago, Toni Braxton claimed that her son had been cured of autism. There is no way that what Braxton said is true because there is no cure for autism. While early intervention and therapy can certainly help individuals on the spectrum live productive lives, autism is a ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Self imposed pressure to find someone to date |
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Posted: 23 May 2025, 11:21 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 4,036
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| For a long while ago I was obsessed with it. I diceded to give up, but that turned me into an incel. I didn't really hate women; it's not their fault. They are free to pick someone whom they are attracted to. To the environment (friends, colleagues and relatives) I come across as someone who isn't i... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Stop with these delusions please. |
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Posted: 23 May 2025, 10:43 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 3,031
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| I am not so sure about labelling these more subtle behaviours as always NOT being signs of interest. I think the main thing here is not to chase women, regardless if they have shown interest in you or not. Chasing women makes you look desperate and needy. I still try to find out. I get lots of such... |
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