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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: When will people realise immigration is good? |
| chris1989 |
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Posted: 24 Feb 2026, 4:42 pm
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Replies: 2
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| To be honest, I'm just tired of all the stuff I'm hearing here in the UK, about how the Reform party thinks we being "invaded" or flooded by illegal immigrants left, right and centre and yet people believe everything they say and say they will vote for them, without realising that some of ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Sometimes wishing I was born earlier |
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Posted: 22 Feb 2026, 12:30 pm
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Replies: 0
Views: 22
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| I remember a while ago on a bus back from somewhere, I was passing down the road near my grandparents (my dad's parents) house and looking the playground I used to sometimes play in as a child with my grandad and thought to myself strangely wishing my parents had me earlier so that that my grandad (... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Never smoked, got drunk, taken drugs, one night stands... |
| chris1989 |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2026, 1:33 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 178
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funeralxempire wrote: Sounds pretty boring, not gonna lie.
Are you joking or are you being serious? |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Never smoked, got drunk, taken drugs, one night stands... |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2026, 3:24 pm
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Replies: 17
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| I don't regret the fact that I have never smoked because I always knew even as a kid that it was bad for your health and I didn't fall to the pressure of smoking because other people did. The same can be said of drugs, as I have never smoked weed and stuff like that. I have drunken alcohol since 18 ... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Should a government dictate what a woman does with her body? |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2026, 11:38 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 124
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| I heard that because of falling birth rates, in France, the government issued leaflets or letters or something to women in their late 20s to "encourage" to think about and have children. I seem to feel as though it's no one else's business to tell a woman what she should and shouldn't do w... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Finding myself avoiding my nephew |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2026, 1:52 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 79
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| Is it that you feel awkward and don't know how to communicate with children in general, or because you can't communicate with your nephew in particular? Growing up, i was not really maternal and did not know how to act around small children. Then i met my friend's daughter and i noticed that i ador... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Finding myself avoiding my nephew |
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Posted: 11 Feb 2026, 1:00 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 79
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| Sometimes on a Wednesday my mum goes and picks up my nephew from school and stays round for a couple of hours but sometimes I find myself if I'm not working on that day or out somewhere and I'm indoors, I'll sometimes stay in my room pretending I'm not here. On days when I don't stay in my room, it ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I sometimes feel hopeless as though it's too late |
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Posted: 11 Feb 2026, 10:21 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 94
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| I feel like sometimes I get feelings of hopelessness because I'm feeling behind other people. From what the AI chatbot told me, most 35 year olds are married and so on and so it reinforced feeling that I AM alone. I do get irritated by internal thoughts that seem like they are telling me to "hu... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Feeling like everyone is more "grown up" than me |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2026, 2:40 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 177
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| I came across a site which lists seven reasons why adults don't act like adults. 1. Still living with parents - yes I do 2. Don't have kids - no I don't 3. Not married - no I don't 4. Don't have a retirement plan - no I don't 5. Don't get to decorate my space - yes I do 6. Don't have life insurance ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should you do things so you don't regret it later? |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2026, 1:17 pm
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Replies: 1
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| I seen questions from people who like me have expressed feelings of missing out on things, comparing to others and so on on forums like Reddit, quora etc and one was by someone feeling like they are missing out on the 'typical experiences of early 20 year olds" and didn't spend time doing hard ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Worried I'm wasting life because I'm doing hobbies indoors |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2026, 12:48 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 59
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| I seem to be finding myself thinking almost all the time thinking my days off work spent indoors doing stuff I like, like reading and writing is somehow a "waste of life" because I seem to think everyone else spends almost every day outdoors on their days off like going on trips somewhere ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: What's happened to my local town centre? |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2026, 9:04 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 186
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| I've heard people saying we can't afford this, we can't afford that. I mean isn't the UK supposed to be one of the wealthiest countries in the world? I don't know how we have come this way. Is it because of the COVID pandemic or was it going on even before 2019 or 2020 ? I do know we had a recession... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Feeling like everyone is more "grown up" than me |
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Posted: 04 Feb 2026, 3:12 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 177
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| If it makes you feel any better, you sound way more like an adult than I do, and I'm married. But I can't work/pay bills or drive, which feels like the most adult things you can do other than... I dunno, sort mail and vote, lol. Do you get worried others might not see you as an adult? Well, probabl... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Why do I struggle to take onboard other people's advice? |
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Posted: 04 Feb 2026, 2:39 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 75
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| Perhaps ponder this... Do you feel left out specifically cos they got into a relationship, got married, had kids, etc - or do you feel left out cos they did something that seemed to make them happy? Cos it doesn't seem like you're terribly interested in the activities themselves, but rather, the fe... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Why do I struggle to take onboard other people's advice? |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2026, 12:57 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 75
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| For example, when it comes to comparing myself to others and issues like this, I seem to struggle shift the mindset from the negative to the positive and turn envy into inspiration and acknowledge that things like being in relationships, marriage, kids etc do not equal guaranteed happiness. I feel b... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: What's happened to my local town centre? |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2026, 9:13 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 186
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| I work in a shopping centre in Chatham in Kent and it's a place I grew up going to as a kid. I remember one night going to bed once looking forward to going to town. Now there are very few shops there now. The top floor used to have shops upstairs and then one by one there closed even shops that had... |
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